This woman is a pro. And I mean, a genuine professional writer. So her blog reads easy. And that’s nice.

As for whether DD is for you, only you can decide that. I’m not one to proscribe something like this as a cure all for relationship troubles. That’s nuts. But I will say, in all DD dynamics I’ve been involved in, in each case it was my partner who requested discipline. And it was like, after a sensual lite hand spanking and then I’d get asked for something harsher and real rules. This happened four times.

I’ll also say, after these partners requested discipline, and we got into a good working rhythm, they became much happier and their behavior improved.

The kink scene remains conflicted on this. Some SSC adherents view any diiscipline as a violation of safety and even consent, regardless of the partner’s wishes. So, abuse. Yet some others, I guess RACK adherents, are ok with it as long as formal consent is maintained. By contract or verbally.

I’m in the second camp. Without consent, it’s a no-go. But with consent, that’s a question of negotiation.