God this resonates with me so hard. It’s not that she doesn’t enjoy it, I know that much, but she will always prefer penetration of some form. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been in the same position you describe and being pulled up and told “sex now!” As someone who just genuinely enjoys oral it is quite frustrating and a little sad. We get a little kinky so at least sometimes I can just say no, suffer 😈! So at least I’ve got that going for me I guess haha