Did you unwrap a present early? Maybe wrapped your lips around something else, instead? Share how you were naughty this week with your Lemmy friends :-)

  • @flute
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    1011 months ago

    I haven’t been on here for quite some time. In short - I was made redundant at my job and was very quickly shitting myself (I literally got myself a house a month ago and I’ve got myself a mortgage) and going job-hunting. I had an interview last week, so I’m hoping that has gone well and I get an offer soon.

    So up until now, no naughty fun. In fact, quite the opposite.

    On Sunday I went out on a date with a lady I met off Hinge. We seemed to have conversational chatter with our voice notes, so I figured it would be good to meet her in person.

    She was quite shy and didn’t really do much talking (I’m sure I chatted both our ears off) outside of other opportune moments where she seemed really excited. She also told me (both on the date and in voicenotes up to the date) that it takes her a long time to warm up to people. For reference, she is divorced and her ex basically emotionally abused her as well as quite literally had an affair for half their marriage as well as had a kid with another woman while forcing my date to be on the pill (at the time she really wanted kids). So yeah, scumbag and I’m not surprised she was shy.

    HOWEVER! She has agreed to another date with some Egyptian VR thing as the date in the new year, and we’ve even agreed to try and meet up before the new year as a dinner date. So that was really nice!

    The one thing I am kicking myself over is that I didn’t kiss her. Two reasons:

    • She did say she took some time to warm up. She seemed to really like me, but I didn’t want to risk overstepping my boundaries.
    • She was quite literally coughing throughout the date. She wasn’t feeling well, but still turned up (I mean, that’s got to count for brownie points, right?)

    I do hope we get a date soon so I can get the opportunity to kiss her though. We seem to have so much in common and she’s just such a delight, not to mention she doesn’t deserve even half the shit she’s received with her shitty ex. It would be nice to see the relationship progress :)

    • @dazedandconfusedOP
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      711 months ago

      ♥️ It’s great to hear from you, man. You have a lot going on and I’ll I can really do is wish you luck on the job search and on restarting your dating journey. I think under the circumstances you were right to not go in for a kiss. At most a hug. In fact I’d consider asking for consent when you do try for a kiss. I’ve heard from a number of people that they think it’s really sexy to ask before kissing. Egyptian VR?

      • @flute
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        411 months ago

        Thank you very much! And yes I did give her a hug.

        So I spoke to a friend and she said being kissed without consent had an element of romantic spontaneity to it. But also, this woman does not have her shit together. I’m glad your said the consent thing because I was totally going to do the whole “please may I kiss you?” Thing and got she says yes.

        So, Egyptian vr is apparently a tour around Egypt in vr like environment. Not sure if it involves a headset or not, but it should sound like fun! I’m up for it!

        • @dazedandconfusedOP
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          411 months ago

          Good luck! I mention in my hookup profiles that consent is always sexy. Wish dating profiles could be that transparent too! 😅

    • Ahornygirl
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      511 months ago

      Welcome back! My fingers and toes are crossed for your job offer ☺️

      I’m glad your date went so well! The Egyptian VR date sounds cool, you’ll have to tell us all about it. I hope you’re able to fit a dinner date in too 🙂

      • @flute
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        411 months ago

        Thank you very much, I’ll be sure to let you guts know how it goes!