“(Okay. Okay, okay, okay, here goes.) Hey, I’m so sorry, I’m so very bad with names, what’s yours again? (Gawd that was awful, but it’s over, we did it, I’m so proud of us, we overcame our fear and… FUCK what did they say?!)”

Alternatively:
“What’s your name again?”
“T*********”
"Sorry, what?*
“Ti********”
😐

Anyone do a thing where to remember the name you mentally attach them to someone you already know. Then right on cue you can remember the link but not the name of the family member you linked them to.

I find that repeating someones name after they introduce themselves greatly helps with remembering it.

I have a fun thing. I’ll meet a new coworker. Let’s call her Sara. I learn her name after a few days and say, “Hi Sara!” when I see them in the halls.

One day, I’m at the mall. This random person says, “Hi Kekahi!” And I say, “Hi… you!” It’s Sara.

They were out of place! I cannot be expected to recognize someone if I see them in a place where I don’t usually see them. That’s asking too much!

So this is dumb but I’ve been carrying around a little notebook to write random things down, and I’ve taken to recording names of new people I meet. Also people are way more forgiving of forgetting names and I’ve also accepted that people that aren’t are not worth being around anyway.

I once had an acquaintance/friend for 4 years who told me their name when we first met. I immediately forgot it of course but managed to avoid referring to them by name the whole time and I only found out what it was again when I told them I was moving overseas and they gave me contact details to reach them after I moved. So funny suddenly achieving that 4 year long goal of one day figuring out what they were called like that. Of course, I lost the contact details and forgot their name immediately after that but on the day I was able to thank them using their name for the first time in years and it felt very satisfying.

Sigh… more often that I could admit

At least you remember to ask people for their name I had it happen that I didn’t ask for someones name until I knew them for more than half a year

I have a very specific way of remembering names. I don’t know if it will work for everybody but I find It works 95% of the time. When someone is being introduced to me I get the new person to tell me their name and then I get somebody else to introduce me then say their name back to them. Instead of just one memory pathway being built I have multiple ways at once.

I think this is not just an ADHD trait.

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