Genuinely can’t figure out how other people develop active social lives. The most common advice I get is to look on Meetup, but I found pretty much one group and while I had fun, halfway through the event they started making fun of liberals for not having friends. I’m genderqueer so that ain’t gonna work out. Everything else on Meetup is scientology garbage.
I go out and do things on my own and try to be open to people who approach me, but on the rare occasion someone wants to talk to me it’s because they’re horny and they’ve mistaken me for a straight woman. I can be out in the mud picking up litter and someone will strike up a conversation about the environment, something I’m interested in, and it turns out it’s because they think I’m doing this to get the D.
I’m getting crazy bored. Does everyone just work a 9-5 and then go home alone? Except for when they have sex with the occasional random straight man??
Well what do you like to do?
Have you considered volunteering? Like, in an official capacity?
Also please consider sending a message to the admin of whatever that community was and let them know the members made you uncomfortable and you won’t be returning.
I think it may take some time and some effort to find your “tribe”.
Volunteering is a good suggestion! I looked into it a while back and every org I found wanted more hours minimum than I was able to give, but that was also for one specific cause in my hometown. I’m sure there are other things to do I haven’t thought of yet.
Weight training, drawing, hiking, geocaching, outdoorsy stuff.