I know this is weird, but someone whom I follow, I recently discovered had an OF.
Now I’m not knocking them for it. It’s just that everything they present to the public is the complete opposite of someone whom (purely in my opinion) would never do something like that.
I dunno it’s just something odd I wasn’t expecting.
*Edit: Fuck it. It’s Alice Winterhold. There. Are you happy now? Perhaps you’ll understand now…
There’s a reason the word “multifaceted” gets applied to people sometimes. There are different faces we present in different scenarios.
Sometimes people will be one way with family, another at work and another way again when with friends. There are funny stories (or webcomics) of people ending up in a group that comprises a family member and two people they know from respective second and third groups and the humour is that they have no idea how to act in a way that won’t confuse at least one of the people they’re with, including themselves.
As for relating to your situation, there was one online content creator who went by a name that sounded like it was based on a real, given name and not something made up. It was a bit of a surprise when I learned that wasn’t anything to do with their actual name. They also posted things that were out of the mould I’d mentally put them in on another social media site.
(Being vague because I don’t want to dox or disparage.)
Thankfully, those particular revelations affected no-one but me, which might be a way for you to look at the situation with the person you’re talking about.