I don’t need to be someone’s favorite person, I don’t think. But I’ve grown exhausted with “uneven” friendships. I feel like every relationship I try to maintain, it’s a one sided effort. I’m the only one reaching out. I take note of their interests and utilize that info, send them cool links, spark convos, etc. But don’t really get it in return.
Perhaps that’s too demanding of me? Unrealistic? If so, I don’t think I understand what friendship is supposed to be and likely never will.
so is it this way for every relationship or are there some where the other person is always reaching out to you? totally agree, it’s nice when both friends are equally reaching out and attempting to nourish the friendship
Same thing with me. I’ve joined a notorious uni known for ragging and bullying. Being friendless can make you their target. If not for that, I would rather be isolated than fruitlessly try and make friends.
What the fuck is wrong with your place that there is bullying at university? I think most people left that shit in high school, and I could have gone for days at uni without interacting with someone if I wanted…
Me neither. I was at one trade school and two universities in central Europe, and I haven’t heard of any serious bullying. At most at the trade school, because the average age was around 18-19 and “shop talk” is a bit rougher by default. But at uni, where half the people are like 25?
I think I mistook the meaning of the word uni. The oldest students in my college are 20. There is no 25 year olds here. Tbh, I’ve never personally known a person who is like 25 and studies irl.
Even if you have a more straightforward resumee than me… You finish school here at 18, 5 years planned time for most master degrees, that makes you 23-24. Longer if you take a detour here or there.
We finish grade school here at 15 yo. Then 2 years of pre-university college. Then we start our degree courses at 18. Most of them are 3-4 years. I think it’s because my college does not offer master degrees.
I don’t need to be someone’s favorite person, I don’t think. But I’ve grown exhausted with “uneven” friendships. I feel like every relationship I try to maintain, it’s a one sided effort. I’m the only one reaching out. I take note of their interests and utilize that info, send them cool links, spark convos, etc. But don’t really get it in return.
Perhaps that’s too demanding of me? Unrealistic? If so, I don’t think I understand what friendship is supposed to be and likely never will.
so is it this way for every relationship or are there some where the other person is always reaching out to you? totally agree, it’s nice when both friends are equally reaching out and attempting to nourish the friendship
Same thing with me. I’ve joined a notorious uni known for ragging and bullying. Being friendless can make you their target. If not for that, I would rather be isolated than fruitlessly try and make friends.
What the fuck is wrong with your place that there is bullying at university? I think most people left that shit in high school, and I could have gone for days at uni without interacting with someone if I wanted…
I think I must have told you that I’m not an American. It’s worse than high school in uni here because the staff gives no fuck.
Me neither. I was at one trade school and two universities in central Europe, and I haven’t heard of any serious bullying. At most at the trade school, because the average age was around 18-19 and “shop talk” is a bit rougher by default. But at uni, where half the people are like 25?
I think I mistook the meaning of the word uni. The oldest students in my college are 20. There is no 25 year olds here. Tbh, I’ve never personally known a person who is like 25 and studies irl.
Even if you have a more straightforward resumee than me… You finish school here at 18, 5 years planned time for most master degrees, that makes you 23-24. Longer if you take a detour here or there.
We finish grade school here at 15 yo. Then 2 years of pre-university college. Then we start our degree courses at 18. Most of them are 3-4 years. I think it’s because my college does not offer master degrees.