Where do you stand on body hair? A lot? A little? None at all? Does it differ by the gender of your partner(s)?
I’m realizing that a big turn on for me is feeling a very natural, human connection, so I tend to prefer body hair being unmanicured. Men, women and otherwise, I just like to see the hair growing where it naturally wants to.
I think especially pit hair and pubes are attractive to me. I was thinking about it the other day and it’s been that way since sex was a thing on my mind. I remember being 13 or 14 and sneaking looks up other boys sleeves to see if they had pit hair. No clue why that was the case, but it’s something that’s held up over time.
So yeah what about all of you?
That was kind of my question: Why? I understand doing it for personal comfort, but I’ve never understood how shaving became an expectation of mainstream beauty standards, especially for women. Just let people have their own standards, you know?
Agree with you that stubble sucks though, it’s like the worst of both worlds lol. Also doesn’t it get itchy? When I was 16 or 17 growing belly hair for the first time I tried shaving it and it was awful, never done it since. The stubble just ruined me.
Well, it’s like any social trend. Like bell bottoms.
There’s been trends of deplilation all over the world over millennia. Sometimes for aesthetics, sometimes for supposed health reasons (yay merkins!), sometimes for sexual reasons, or religious.
The current trend for it came along with porn, supposedly. And my personal memory matches the progress of it.
Porn is a visual medium. The sex is for watching, so getting the best images possible become more important than anything else. It’s one of the reasons big dicks are the default.
Shaving gives a clearer field of view.
So, now you’ve got all these dudes and some gals enjoying that view. Their sexual ideas get shaped by what they see, and they want to match it.
Then, as they match it and discover the convenient side of it, real sex becomes associated with it. So you get a feedback loop where people just assume they’re supposed to shave. You even run into people thinking that there are hygiene nineties benefits to it (even though it’s either neutral or slightly unhygienic in a real sense).
That, in turn, makes rejecting hair a social norm, even though it all started as something that was more of a private matter (pun intended).
And, yeah, you nailed exactly why I won’t shave any more. It used to be I would do it for partners if they asked, but my wife loves my body hair, all of it. Which is lucky since I’m furry like a baby sasquatch. But even if she ran off tomorrow, I wouldn’t do it any more too itchy, too many ingrown hairs, the extra hassles and increased skin health risks. Nah, not for me.