I need some advice from the internet;
I haven’t been dating for quite a few years now, but I’m finally in a position where I can think about this kind of stuff. I’m a chef that regularly visits my local dispensery after work. Partly because of the cute girl working there with whom I’ve been chatting quite a bit recently. Last week we stood there chatting for over 10 minutes while she left her colleague to help the other customers there. She says her and a friend are coming over to lunch at the place I work at next week. It’s not like she’s been giving me super obvious signs (or I’m just oblivious to them, which I’m not ruling out), but again, she’s super cute.
Is it appropriate for me to ask her out for a drink? I honestly don’t know if I should or not. It does feel kinda weird asking someone out at their place of work and I don’t want to put her in an awkward situation.
I would have reminded you of the power imbalance that might be there, but since you are sensitive enough, I would say you are fine. Just make sure she absolutely knows it is fine if she says no, and that you have another dispensery you can go to for a while if she says no, just to make things not awkward. Otherwise, go for it! You cannot always meet people you like at a bar or whatever people do these days.
//Edit: Wishing you all the best!
Yeah, that’s my main worry. Putting her in a awkward position. I’m fine with her saying no and it wouldn’t be awkward for me afterwards, just don’t wanna come over like a prick to her
Ya, I agree. If she says no (hopefully she won’t tho) make sure to give that dispensary a bit of a break, to let things cool down.
This is an important point. When asking someone out, they should have the ability to escape the situation, if they want to. Both in the actual moment of being asked out and in the greater scheme of things. She can’t really escape, if she has to serve you as a customer.