Hmm I see. Well, don’t let me tell you how to feel about your experiences. But I think wanting sex is a completely valid reason to enter into a relationship, as long as you’re up front about it. It sounds like maybe you could have been more open about what you wanted in the relationship. To me that’s a much healthier lesson than pursuing sex is bad.
Oh, I wasn’t meaning to imply that wanting sex was the issue. It was that I was using a relationship as means to that end. It felt scummy at the time and looking back on it I view it as having used her.
Hmm I see. Well, don’t let me tell you how to feel about your experiences. But I think wanting sex is a completely valid reason to enter into a relationship, as long as you’re up front about it. It sounds like maybe you could have been more open about what you wanted in the relationship. To me that’s a much healthier lesson than pursuing sex is bad.
Oh, I wasn’t meaning to imply that wanting sex was the issue. It was that I was using a relationship as means to that end. It felt scummy at the time and looking back on it I view it as having used her.