I’ve realized I am really bothered by passive voice in cleaning with people I live with. “I am going to do the dishes tonight” - great “Eric, would you take out the trash tonight please?” - that’s fine! I probably would have taken it out if I had realized it was full. I’m an adult and this is my house, I try to keep it clean. “We need to clean up around here!” - What does that mean? Do you want me to clean? Are you going to clean? I thought things were pretty clean, is there something specific that needs cleaning?
Also me and my mom can’t live together because we do dishes differently. I am a “fill and start the dishwasher” person and she is a “Empty the sink” kind of person.
You have no idea what passive voice means.
But I have gotten into trouble for dishwashing habits. My wife lives 70 miles away, which is probably why she hasn’t strangled me over the last 15 years.
I’m totally guilty of using the dishwasher for storage. She and my (adult) kids have chewed me out for this. “But I was going to put away,” followed by a kick in the ass .
I’ve no recollection of where I first read this: Get yourself a second dishwasher. Never again do you need to put away the dishes.
Always have one clean one to take dishes from while you’re filling the other with dirty dishes. Once the other is filled turn it on and now the status is reversed.
This is a remarkable solution. Maybe I just need to get a second house They’re really hard to steal though.
As an appliance salesman I approve this method
Maybe passive voice is the wrong term, but talking in a passive way about cleaning. Don’t do an open ended complaint without an obvious solution. Either ask me to clean something specific, or say if you intend to clean somethings specific.
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