I’m a 40 yo single mum. Recently divorced and happy to answer any questions sent to me. I’ve had a few drinks and finally home by myself so thought why not do a wee nsfw Q&A. All questions welcome. DMs are open if u don’t wanna post them publicly. Will answer every questions asked.
Sorry if this question is a downer… actually not sorry. My experience with women of your age is that you come in knowing a little more about what you do and what you don’ want but you have relatively little compassion for what a prospective partner may or my not want. I have had the following conversation with multiple women.
Me: so are we doing the thing we planned to do tonight?
Her: no, sorry one of my kids (young adult but definitely adult) needs me to do X.
Me: (trying to be good boyfriend): Oh, that’s a shame. but I understand.
Her: (sensing my disappointment and getting defensive) I’m sorry but my children always come first.
Here’s the question bit: If your children always come first, and you presumably come second, that means any man that comes in has to be content with third place. Why the fuck should I be content with third place, permanently?
Do you ever expect to take priority over your partner’s kids? If so, I’m guessing you don’t have kids.
And I don’t know why you’d assume your partner would always be second.
I think this is the answer, probably people with kids need to date other people with kids.