I feel that Discord-like platforms can be useful sometimes, especially if you want to have a conversation in real-time.

I run a sissy Discord that’s intended for more intellectual discussions, and I’d be happy to link it to /c/sissy to drive activity. However, I also totally understand if it would be better to create a whole new server, or (better yet) use an open-source alternative to Discord. After all, decentralization is important no matter what platform you’re using!

What do you sissies think~?

Addendum: I think a Matrix/Element room would be best, but in the interim I’ve set up an IRC channel, #sissy_discussion on Rizon. Below is a link to a web client, everyone is welcome to join!

https://client01.chat.mibbit.com/?server=irc.rizon.net&channel=%23sissy_discussion

  • @chloespanked
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    211 months ago

    Here are my two cents: I’d love more interactions with sissies. I haven’t stopped missing r/sissyology :) but I don’t really want to use any social media site I’m not mostly comfortable with. Discord isn’t owned by a tech giant at the moment. If you have to provide a phone # to register that’s a deal-breaker for me. I probably wouldn’t try Discord tbh. I’d try Fediverse alternatives though. I don’t know that this community is large enough to launch another off of. Compared to the 90-9-1 rule, our key contributors and upvoter #s are low against # of total subscribers. So, I really like your idea, and needs to chat are 100% valid, but I think there might be many implementation challenges. It’s early in the morning though, so maybe I’m being unreasonably pessimistic

    • @sissy_sophiaOPM
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      211 months ago

      Yeah, I totally get that. Phone number requirements are a deal-breaker for me too. I was able to get a Discord account without registering one, but it can be annoying, and there’s still huge privacy concerns. I really, really want to move past Discord as a platform to something more open and decentralized.

      I wonder what could be some ways to drive engagement here. As a mod of /r/sissyology I’ve been considering reaching out to the top posters there and trying to build a new community with higher standards of discourse and on a safer platform than Reddit. Lemmy is a huge step in the right direction, though with my security-conscious mindset I’d love to have one (or multiple!) back-ups to Lemmy as well :P

      • @chloespanked
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        210 months ago

        Here are some of my thoughts on increasing engagement in this community :). I think more content is the key, and we’re far away from a critical mass of active users that generate enough content so that the community ‘grows itself’. Our two biggest potential sources of subscribers are probably lemmysnfw users not subscribed and r/sissyology subscribees. I can try to post more content. I think I’ll probably look to common sissy topics (e.g., inspiration via a website) and add some of my own perspective. If you can get some people who post on r/sissyology to post here as well, that’d be very efficient. Site registration (not withstanding the captcha-lol) is very easy, so you could us that as a selling point. I know you’ve done surveys in the past. I work in research IRL, and between the two of us we could probably bang out surveys pretty easily (the tough part might be finding a site to host the survey that we’re comfortable with, but that’s a one-off cost). I think these might be a way for us to attract people, because I think people like taking surveys. For a little extra sneakiness, we could link to the survey both from here and r/sissyology, but indicate in the survey that results will be posted here only :P.

        My other idea concerns the sidebar. Many, and I don’t blame them, apply their approach to reddit moderating here, where given the differences in # of users, I’m not sure that always translates best. I see in the Modlog that 3 posts have been removed in 2 months. My idea is to reduce the space that the house rules take up in the sidebar and add more sissy resources.

        • @sissy_sophiaOPM
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          210 months ago

          Should have responded to this earlier, sorry.

          Our two biggest potential sources of subscribers are probably lemmysnfw users not subscribed and r/sissyology subscribees.

          My hunch is that you’ll primarily want to look outside of Lemmy for new subscribers, since Lemmy only has so many members and it’s possible those who would be interested in sissy topics are already subscribed.

          That said, maintaining engagement from those already subscribed will be key to keeping this community active.

          I know you’ve done surveys in the past. I work in research IRL, and between the two of us we could probably bang out surveys pretty easily (the tough part might be finding a site to host the survey that we’re comfortable with, but that’s a one-off cost).

          I’m planning on doing another large-scale Sissy Survey. I’m doing it with Google Forms, which I’d avoid if I could but I don’t know any decent alternatives.

          For a little extra sneakiness, we could link to the survey both from here and r/sissyology, but indicate in the survey that results will be posted here only :P.

          That could work!

          I might be wrong though, but isn’t Reddit auto-removing posts that mention Lemmy? Or is that a different site?

          My idea is to reduce the space that the house rules take up in the sidebar and add more sissy resources.

          This could be good!

          One way of building up this community would be to establish it as a higher-quality version of the communities on Reddit. People will flock to places that can offer more effective training methods.

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            It would be really sad indeed if there’s no decent survey alternative to the anti-privacy company’s offering you mentioned. I think you’re right about reddit censoring lemmy links. My idea was that the lemmy links would be in the survey linked to on reddit and thus outside of reddit’s censorship reach

            • @sissy_sophiaOPM
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              210 months ago

              Is there a way that you’ve found to link it on Reddit without activating the automatic filters?

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                Apologies for my lack of clarity. My idea is that users of r/sissyology will click on a link to take them to [survey URL], and the webpage of [survey URL] will mention https://lemmynsfw.com/c/sissy - which some respondents may proceed to. I can’t imagine that the reddit auto-censors could beat this, but you’d know better than me (Edit: the survey isn’t even key to the approach, the key piece is a 3rd-party website that you can add content to that isn’t blacklisted by reddit)

                • @sissy_sophiaOPM
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                  Oh no worries, I got that idea! I was just wondering if there was any way to link it natively on Reddit without having to do so through the survey

                  • @chloespanked
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                    310 months ago

                    I’m not a web dev, but here are my ideas! To link it, you might be able to use an on-demand URL shortening site, like tinyurl. You could also tell people what the relatively simple link is in a cryptic way that an interested human would be able to figure it out, but the regular expressions (or whatever reddit uses) wouldn’t. If you venture into promoting a reddit alternative on their site, however, you probably take on risk of them finding out and deleting your account. So, I wouldn’t use your regular Sissy Sophia account if I were you, and I’d probably take other privacy steps, like VPN