[Update] please note that this community is no longer restricted to Male chastity, and now is open to all. The prior narrow focus on males that was in the sidebar before was an oversight and has been removed.

Every submissive has an unique original story behind their consent, right?

I (and I’m very sure others too) am very interested in how you “discovered” chastity ( I’m sure it wasn’t taught as part of sex-ed classes 😉), why you want/agreed to be caged, what satisfaction (sexual or otherwise) you are getting, etc…

Please share your origin story, either by replying to this as comment, or starting up your own new thread. Free form, no judgements, just simply sharing.

The image in post is my collection of cages - my first one on the left was acquired a little over two years ago.

I’ll be glad to my own story in comments later if you are interested.

I’m thinking a corresponding thread for Tops and Doms/Dommes could work too…

  • b9999998OPMEnglish
    1•1 year ago

    Thanks for coming out of your lurker mode 😉. Great response - thank you, especially to the “why” part because I find the many various reasons (even if unexplainable) fascinating. I myself am a very late bloomer to chastity aspect and cages and a recent switch…

    I hope you don’t mind my followups: what (or who) makes you remain in chastity? would you consider crossing back to a life uncaged? Do/would you still top even if you are caged?

    • @Women_are_wonderfulEnglish
      3•1 year ago

      Sorry to then vanish back in to lurking for a couple of months. I’m still wanting to love Lemmy, but things are still slow enough that my typical 95% consumption model of reddit-like sites means I get bored faster, no matter how much more interesting the people are here…

      I have literally never understood my interest in chastity… I read about it sometime in the late 90’s, mostly from Tammad, and something clicked. I needed to try it. I needed to be actively denied. Ironically I was still in the height of my slutting around days then. It’s never been a humiliation/degradation thing - nmk - and I’ve yet to be in a real D/s-y relationship where I’m s-ing.

      There’s mild Ds with my keyholder, but tbh she’s mostly doing it - and doing it well beyond any reasonable expectations! - at my behest. As much as I (sort of) want to believe that she’d reject the request if I said I was done with all of this, I truly doubt we’d even explore that CnC road - though I’ve basically ok’d any given instance of such that she may be interested in and we could talk it out later.

      It’s been about 10 years that I really started getting serious - when I told her what I wanted to - and about 6 since I’ve been basically full-time… and I feel like a recent trip where I messed up and left home without a cage for a week(!!) has shown me that I’d prefer not to go back to the old ways. Being locked feels more right. As does the restricted hard-on I’m attempting to get while typing this all up.

      All that said, yes I absolutely still top, though not nearly as much as I’d LIKE TO BE. I’ve yet to find a bottom that’s also in to denial of this sort, sadly, but going after the “You’re done coming when I SAY you’re done” is almost as satisfying. I’ve just taken (bio)PiV(or A) off the table as something I’ll do with a partner. Most people have been ok with this. One wasn’t, and I’m a bit sad about it, but I survive.

      I might go make this a top-level post someplace…

      • b9999998OPMEnglish
        1•1 year ago

        Hope you do make a new top level post.

        Re

        There’s mild Ds with my keyholder, but tbh she’s mostly doing it - and doing it well beyond any reasonable expectations! - at my behest.

        This is very similar with my wife/mistress, so I know the feeling 😉

        Being locked feels more right.

        Why is that? For me, I love the visible aspects of seeing self caged (or wearing my base band), not necessarily that I need to be locked up.