Especially when we enjoy not having sexual equality, this can often happen in combination with humiliation or pain. Sex that only pleases him at times, but she endures it more for his love, can be a facet of it. As a top, this is a particularly appealing situation for me because she takes the trouble to do it for me. I’m curious how the community thinks of this. Pleasurable moment or shame? ;-) source
I’m fantasizing about something like this quiet regularly. In everyday life and my relationship, I’m not a person exercising power over others very often. I’m more looking to be on par with my peers/partner and maybe am subordinating myself a little bit. Arising from that, fantasies that contain being the dominant person could be a counterweight. Sometimes I want to be the one that is to be pleased no matter what.