I’ve hit that same jackpot. All my previous relationships were toxic AF and now I’m with my 2 girlfriends who I trust more than myself. I even have a history of lying to prevent pain and I just can’t lie to them even if I try. They are truly the best things to ever happen to me and I would do anything for them especially since I don’t even have to change a thing about myself to make them happy
I will admit, I cheated once in my life on one person, and though I feel bad about it I felt justified in doing so as well. It was an extremely toxic relationship where I feared going home and learned to block punches and thrown objects. It was almost a decade ago now, but even all my other relationships I’ve had wouldn’t have felt justification to cheat.
I know I don’t have to say that, but I’d rather people learn from my mistakes and I own up to all my mistakes, justified or not.
My take? Don’t cheat, just find a way, literally any way, to get out. It’s more dangerous to antagonize your abuser than to just escape.
In abusive relationships you may sometimes feel that living without them is even worse - either due to attachment or financial issues or anything else.
No, it isn’t. Any problem can and will be solved - transition will hurt, but, as just about 100% of people who escaped such relationships will tell you - it is worth it.
Your safety, dignity and mental health are worth way more than what you get in any abusive relationship.
Also, bonus points for owning up to your past mistakes. You’re doing great!
I’ve hit that same jackpot. All my previous relationships were toxic AF and now I’m with my 2 girlfriends who I trust more than myself. I even have a history of lying to prevent pain and I just can’t lie to them even if I try. They are truly the best things to ever happen to me and I would do anything for them especially since I don’t even have to change a thing about myself to make them happy
To be clear - it’s a polyamorous relationship, right?
Yes, I wouldn’t have two families. One is enough.
I just like a big one
Nice!
Does it have to? What’s wrong with them sharing him without liking each other?
Nothing wrong with that, it’s just that cheating came to my mind first, but it’s obviously not the case :)
I will admit, I cheated once in my life on one person, and though I feel bad about it I felt justified in doing so as well. It was an extremely toxic relationship where I feared going home and learned to block punches and thrown objects. It was almost a decade ago now, but even all my other relationships I’ve had wouldn’t have felt justification to cheat.
I know I don’t have to say that, but I’d rather people learn from my mistakes and I own up to all my mistakes, justified or not.
My take? Don’t cheat, just find a way, literally any way, to get out. It’s more dangerous to antagonize your abuser than to just escape.
Golden words.
Escape.
In abusive relationships you may sometimes feel that living without them is even worse - either due to attachment or financial issues or anything else.
No, it isn’t. Any problem can and will be solved - transition will hurt, but, as just about 100% of people who escaped such relationships will tell you - it is worth it.
Your safety, dignity and mental health are worth way more than what you get in any abusive relationship.
Also, bonus points for owning up to your past mistakes. You’re doing great!