(Male if it matters)
I don’t know if I’m reaching a new level of sexual maturity or what. Lately instead of looking at hardcore porn and furiously jerking off until I cum, I’m looking at no pics or lewd pics on Lemmy, and taking my time to feel as much of the sensations as I can. I’m finding that I don’t need to reach an orgasm to still feel pleasure and like I enjoyed myself. I’m not talking about edging - I don’t get that close. Just enjoying the good vibes.
Anyone else? Do you set expectations when you sit down to masturbate? Do you expect to achieve orgasm and get frustrated when you don’t?
I like your perspective, and I see how all of these things could be connected. For example, when doing prostate/dildo play, I will usually wear a chastity device before I begin. I find it forces my perception to focus more on what’s going on in the back and inside rather than just grabbing my cock and going at it. It’s kind of another form of this theme that you’re mentioning.
Definitely, for me, moving away from all the hardcore porn has been a good thing. I think it was all actually too stimulating and over the years I didn’t really realize the effect of it. And now I’m kind of changing because I left that other social media website a few weeks ago :-)