It’s not nice to snoop but it sounds like you have given her plenty of trust and she has only given you reason to be suspicious/jealous, so I don’t think you’re at fault - it’s also on Reddit publicly, not the same as reading her DMs. It doesn’t make it fine, but I think it makes it somewhat less intrusive.
That being said, if you’ve been dating for almost 3 years and it’s not progressing despite you wanting it to and talking to her about it, I’d say it probably doesn’t matter if you slipped up or she did as it seems like things are dead in the water.
My advice would be to try to move on and find someone who wants to progress things with you, rather than their ex.
I wouldn’t call reading public comments for a Reddit account “snooping.” Now, whether you believe OP’s story of how he “accidentally” found her username, that’s another story…
It’s not nice to snoop but it sounds like you have given her plenty of trust and she has only given you reason to be suspicious/jealous, so I don’t think you’re at fault - it’s also on Reddit publicly, not the same as reading her DMs. It doesn’t make it fine, but I think it makes it somewhat less intrusive.
That being said, if you’ve been dating for almost 3 years and it’s not progressing despite you wanting it to and talking to her about it, I’d say it probably doesn’t matter if you slipped up or she did as it seems like things are dead in the water.
My advice would be to try to move on and find someone who wants to progress things with you, rather than their ex.
I wouldn’t call reading public comments for a Reddit account “snooping.” Now, whether you believe OP’s story of how he “accidentally” found her username, that’s another story…
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