The way I understand boulders is the things that need to be addressed before talking about the little things, so any tension / important topics that act as a source of confusion between you in your relationship, and that by talking about you can then feel safer and more comfortable in each other’s presence.
You clear away the big boulders, the medium boulders, etc., whittle it down, with the goal of making it comfortable to talk about the small things.
What does boulder mean in this context?
The way I understand boulders is the things that need to be addressed before talking about the little things, so any tension / important topics that act as a source of confusion between you in your relationship, and that by talking about you can then feel safer and more comfortable in each other’s presence.
You clear away the big boulders, the medium boulders, etc., whittle it down, with the goal of making it comfortable to talk about the small things.