Hi everyone! I like the posts so far, but I’m wondering: What exactly is a gooner girl? The gifs don’t seem to have anything in common other than being relatively vanilla heterosexual media, and the wider interwebs aren’t immediately defining it either.
If “gooner girl” is too simplistic and this isn’t enough of a post to be worth responding to yet, then here’s another question: What does “gooner girl” (or “gooner” or “goon”, etc.) mean to you personally?
I hope it’s alright to post this here. The rules didn’t say much. Cheers!
My lived experience on that matter was a bit of both. I was fortunate enough to never get any directly abusive messages or comments, just weird ones. A guy once commented (paraphrasing), “Your wearing the wrong buttplug.” Which made me laugh my ass off all day lol. The demanding comments could be off putting though.
I just saw it as: “Okay. The people here prefer pictures of models and OF advertisements more than interacting with actual women. Guess I’ll go elsewhere.” While there have certainly been great women with OF accounts active here (u/Rinn for example), they’re great because they choose to interact with the community organically. Accounts like u/Lorra and u/marichka are 100% why I chose to leave, not any sort of harassment. They’ll always have a much bigger impact on the community than people like u/SquirtMistress and myself, because they are able to target this instance with dozens of accounts posting daily. Also, notice the similarities between those two accounts. Both eastern European with similar posting habits, and zero comment. u/Marichka was even created the same day as u/nino_pasteloo and u/karin_masitoo, and also follow the same patterns. So I really think its a business or something running the accounts. And there are dozens of them.
TLDR; I 100% left because I believe OnlyFans bot accounts are dominating the instance, not any sort of harassment.
OK. So, I happen to know that many OF accounts are managed by a media company promoting creators’ work. That’s true.
Thank you for your perspective. It’s different from mine, but valid just the same. If you don’t mind, I’ll share this comment with other mods and admins. They might find it interesting.
Just to be upfront, I’ve also decided to step away from the instance for the exact reasons Just_Pizza_Crust mentions.
While there’s definitely more than anyone would like, you can always combat shitty comments with positive comments, community action, or moderation, but it’s become clear that a large portion of the community is okay with the OF bot spam. Unfortunately this type of advertising is cancerous in the way it spreads and has a tendency to overtake anywhere that it’s permitted. Logging in has just turned into an act of frustration.
I understand getting annoyed by duplicates. But how are OF posts any worse than reposted commercial porn?
My view is that a lot of people like OF content. It’s not for me. I mean, you know what I’m into. But where else will OC content come from?
I just don’t view submissions as zero sum. OF postings don’t crowd out amateurs, they add to the pot.
When someone posts commercial porn they are sharing something that they enjoy and/or are passionate about. I don’t personally enjoy it, but there is value to this. This is especially true for more niche kinks and preferences.
Personally I’ll never spend a dime on an OF, but I don’t have a problem with it and I can see its appeal. I have no problems with and great respect for the women that are posting to market themselves and making themselves a part of the community.
I do however take heavy offense with the management agencies that have taken hold. Unlike those who post from commercial porn or shoot archives, they have no incentive to care about the community or instance as a whole. The only thing they care about is quick visibility and casting a wide net. They don’t care if a post is relevant and will get removed in an hour or two, only that it’s seen. They don’t care what someone says in regards to the post, only that they click on their link. In my mind, these posts are no different than a bot and when you allow this behavior unchecked it quickly gets out of hand.
It’s not a zero sum game, but you’re fooling yourself if you think it doesn’t dissuade non-commercial posts.
Fair enough. If I read this right, your main sticking point is that of a commercial third party acting as posting intermediary for creators. You don’t think they act in the community’s best interest.
Go ahead, though I actually got all this info from another user. They had been working on a “writeup” of the situation before going dark. I haven’t heard from them recently, but I’ll try reaching out to see what they have. She kinda got ignored by one Moderator though, so idk if she’s even on Lemmy anymore.
Not listening to the people who create content is definitely how we got in this mess.
Thank you so much for writing your lived experience perspective. I really hope to bump into you again. If you get a reply, I’d love to hear about that too.