The problem is… How do you know when she interested and when not interested if she just chatting normally, i mean, I’ve been called dense many times when she didn’t do even slightest signs of affection, just friendly chatting, that’s it
Every one of those who tried to talk to me? It would be kinda cringe, there should be at least SOME signs like touching hair or something, but they did NONE of them, well… Looks like i attract some tsunderes or something, only 2 SHOWED little signs, others just call me dense if i don’t initiate myself
Ehh, that’s a self-selecting feature there mate. You don’t want to be with someone who communicates through inscrutable clues and then becomes upset if you don’t pick up on them or read them wrong. That’s a recipe for an emotional bad time.
Some people play those mindgames not because they believe in them, but because they believe that’s how you’re supposed to act when dating. This is particularly common for younger people with less dating experience, and is often introduced/reinforced by media narratives. I think you’ll find that being direct while also very courteous and polite will have the best results as you may catch someone who is actually thankful not to have to go through the rigamarole of silly dating games.
Something along the lines of:
“Hey, so I think you’re really interesting and I’d love to grab a coffee/drink/meal with you sometime if you’re interested”.
If you face any resistance whatsoever, back down politely. Something like:
“No problems at all! Thanks for being direct with me, I really appreciate it. Let me know if you change your mind.”
You’ll put off people who want to be chased but trust me - they never tire of the chase and you definitely will before they do. I’ve been with someone before who needed to be chased and it’s exhausting. This method means you’re whittling down potential dates which may seem difficult at the time but you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Fingers crossed you meet someone you vibe with mate!
Are you trying to date every single woman who talks to you?
I would chat for a bit and if you are feeling it say, “I’ve enjoyed our time together. Would you like to go on a date and see if our connection develops further?”, or something like that.
I’m not an expert in dating by any means, and I get that flirting exists, but I don’t have time for anyone who would be offended by a straight-forward question like this.
You show signs you like her and see how she responds. You write like you want women to offer themselves up and you pick which one you want. Nah… You offer yourself and see if she’s into it. Be subtle enough she’s not sure if you’re interested at first and ramp up until presence or lack of mutual interest becomes clear.
If the vibe turns sexy awkward ask her out. If it turns icky awkward just stop. Letting her go gracefully when she’s not into you is key. If you over invest or don’t drop it you’ll get labeled creepy.
The problem is… How do you know when she interested and when not interested if she just chatting normally, i mean, I’ve been called dense many times when she didn’t do even slightest signs of affection, just friendly chatting, that’s it
ASK.
edit: If you can’t communicate clearly, you’re not ready to be in a relationship.
Every one of those who tried to talk to me? It would be kinda cringe, there should be at least SOME signs like touching hair or something, but they did NONE of them, well… Looks like i attract some tsunderes or something, only 2 SHOWED little signs, others just call me dense if i don’t initiate myself
Ehh, that’s a self-selecting feature there mate. You don’t want to be with someone who communicates through inscrutable clues and then becomes upset if you don’t pick up on them or read them wrong. That’s a recipe for an emotional bad time.
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Some people play those mindgames not because they believe in them, but because they believe that’s how you’re supposed to act when dating. This is particularly common for younger people with less dating experience, and is often introduced/reinforced by media narratives. I think you’ll find that being direct while also very courteous and polite will have the best results as you may catch someone who is actually thankful not to have to go through the rigamarole of silly dating games.
Something along the lines of:
“Hey, so I think you’re really interesting and I’d love to grab a coffee/drink/meal with you sometime if you’re interested”.
If you face any resistance whatsoever, back down politely. Something like:
“No problems at all! Thanks for being direct with me, I really appreciate it. Let me know if you change your mind.”
You’ll put off people who want to be chased but trust me - they never tire of the chase and you definitely will before they do. I’ve been with someone before who needed to be chased and it’s exhausting. This method means you’re whittling down potential dates which may seem difficult at the time but you’ll thank yourself for it later.
Fingers crossed you meet someone you vibe with mate!
Just the ones you’re interested in romantically.
Are you trying to date every single woman who talks to you?
I would chat for a bit and if you are feeling it say, “I’ve enjoyed our time together. Would you like to go on a date and see if our connection develops further?”, or something like that.
I’m not an expert in dating by any means, and I get that flirting exists, but I don’t have time for anyone who would be offended by a straight-forward question like this.
The ones you are interested in a more romantic relationship with, yes.
Not sure if you mean the person you’re replying to or the women in question
Both! If you ask directly and they can’t respond directly, move on and let them mature.
Here is a handy guide: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw
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You show signs you like her and see how she responds. You write like you want women to offer themselves up and you pick which one you want. Nah… You offer yourself and see if she’s into it. Be subtle enough she’s not sure if you’re interested at first and ramp up until presence or lack of mutual interest becomes clear.
If the vibe turns sexy awkward ask her out. If it turns icky awkward just stop. Letting her go gracefully when she’s not into you is key. If you over invest or don’t drop it you’ll get labeled creepy.