I want to give perspective as an older experienced lady who has been structurally tight, then had kids, then had to do a lot of exercising and now am strong enough but not structurally tight. Have never (yet at least) had any issues getting slippery.
Worst of all is structurally tight. PIV was ok but kind of uncomfortable always, couldn’t go for long (not a problem back then because my ex was a quick guy). It felt like my skin was stretching in an uncomfortable and slightly unpleasant way. There was drag, even when I was slippery.
Last baby was a ten pound bruiser of a newborn and I had to recover my muscle tone. But once I regained the muscle tone, oh yes. That’s it. Flexible structurally (not tight skin) but strong muscularly is the best feeling from the woman’s side. This is when I found I could get off from PIV, can go for longer and can enjoy bigger hung guys, who would have been a flat NO before.
What’s funny is that this is exactly what my midwife recommended back when I had the first baby. She said to train until you can do fisting, that would prevent damage from childbirth and improve sex, and I thought she was crazy but if I could go back to 20 year old me I would tell her to take that advice.
I mean this only in the best way possible: the fact that the female body is literally designed to withstand physical trauma that extreme, and then just be at least as good if not better afterwards, is absolutely fucking ridiculous. Women are literally superhuman, I swear.
Yeah I wince at the “lips that grip” pictures; my body did not forget that feeling. And it was terrifying immediately after having kids, if course. But having the skin tightness eased and the muscles toned and a husband hung thicker than average, all of that combined is so pleasurable. I really wish I’d believed the midwife 30 years ago, and would advise any woman worried about ‘staying tight’ that controlled stretching and kegels and lots of sex is a much better long term strategy.
I want to give perspective as an older experienced lady who has been structurally tight, then had kids, then had to do a lot of exercising and now am strong enough but not structurally tight. Have never (yet at least) had any issues getting slippery.
Worst of all is structurally tight. PIV was ok but kind of uncomfortable always, couldn’t go for long (not a problem back then because my ex was a quick guy). It felt like my skin was stretching in an uncomfortable and slightly unpleasant way. There was drag, even when I was slippery.
Last baby was a ten pound bruiser of a newborn and I had to recover my muscle tone. But once I regained the muscle tone, oh yes. That’s it. Flexible structurally (not tight skin) but strong muscularly is the best feeling from the woman’s side. This is when I found I could get off from PIV, can go for longer and can enjoy bigger hung guys, who would have been a flat NO before.
What’s funny is that this is exactly what my midwife recommended back when I had the first baby. She said to train until you can do fisting, that would prevent damage from childbirth and improve sex, and I thought she was crazy but if I could go back to 20 year old me I would tell her to take that advice.
Amazing well thought out answer, thank you. It’s what I was hoping to hear from the question.
I mean this only in the best way possible: the fact that the female body is literally designed to withstand physical trauma that extreme, and then just be at least as good if not better afterwards, is absolutely fucking ridiculous. Women are literally superhuman, I swear.
Yeah I wince at the “lips that grip” pictures; my body did not forget that feeling. And it was terrifying immediately after having kids, if course. But having the skin tightness eased and the muscles toned and a husband hung thicker than average, all of that combined is so pleasurable. I really wish I’d believed the midwife 30 years ago, and would advise any woman worried about ‘staying tight’ that controlled stretching and kegels and lots of sex is a much better long term strategy.