There is a kid in my daughter’s 2nd grade class, who seems to like to lie/embellish a bit about a lot of things. Some of the things he has said/done so far:

  • He has a girlfriend Kate who hides in his bedroom everyday for him to come back from school, and when he does, they go to the bathroom and she kisses him on the lips
  • He went to military school when he was young(?!). They gave him basic training there
  • He once said he’s a lot stronger than my daughter, and there is no way she can hurt him and asked her to try. She twisted his arm to the back (smh), and he screamed to let him go
  • He said he can easily take her down, and all he needs to do is to hit her on her balls(?)
  • He has punched a few kids in the class for one reason or another (they were making fun of him, she says)
  • He said brought a gun to the school once, and he accidentally pressed the button that makes it shoot and almost killed people, so his girlfriend Kate is mad at him.
  • He says he’s gonna bring his gun to the school one day and kill everyone with it. He’ll spare my daughter because ‘you’re the smart kid. We need smart people to tell us what to do’

I was initially not very concerned, but over time, the things he says and does are extremely concerning to me. We are immigrants who didn’t grow up here, so we have no idea what’s normal and what’s not. I wanted to report the gun thing to his class teacher, but my wife is hesitant. She says he’s probably just joking around, and not to make this a big deal at school.

What do I do here? Please advise.

  • Nougat
    7•10 months ago

    We are immigrants who didn’t grow up here, so we have no idea what’s normal and what’s not.

    I’m not sure where you’re from or where you are, but considering how this is escalating, I don’t think it matters.

    I would actually take this to the school administration - principal and counselor(s) - and not to the specific teacher. A second grade teacher may not have the experience necessary to handle it properly, but the administration would. And you don’t have to bring it as “I want you to do something about this.” Present it as “This is definitely something you should be aware of,” at least in your first conversation with them.