Im hetcis and still remember broking up with my gf and receiving support from all my friend and family, while my lesbian friend only had just me and another friend to support her, because her family didn’t believe her she was lesbian (“is just a phase” bullshit). It was obviously way harder for her, with her family basically saying that her feelings were invalid.
My breakups usually involve some level of internalised transphobia directed at me for being nonbinary. I’ve only ever dated fellow trans people, but, well, the patriarchal brainwashing goes deep. Usually my partners only notice their hangups after a month or so with me. The feelings are buried, and being with me unburies them. Sometimes the problems are solvable, often they are not.
Im hetcis and still remember broking up with my gf and receiving support from all my friend and family, while my lesbian friend only had just me and another friend to support her, because her family didn’t believe her she was lesbian (“is just a phase” bullshit). It was obviously way harder for her, with her family basically saying that her feelings were invalid.
My breakups usually involve some level of internalised transphobia directed at me for being nonbinary. I’ve only ever dated fellow trans people, but, well, the patriarchal brainwashing goes deep. Usually my partners only notice their hangups after a month or so with me. The feelings are buried, and being with me unburies them. Sometimes the problems are solvable, often they are not.