Got lucky with a girl I met through a friend’s girlfriend that I am absolutely in love with but I couldn’t get it up when things got heated. Stayed over at hers but didn’t even get morning wood the day after, only semis over night. Also haven’t had a boner for 3 days now.

She’s actually texted me back more than once after the incident, so I think she might still be ok wil me, but I feel like I should apologise or something. I don’t want to force things but I also don’t want to lose her. Should I apologise?

Also I’ve looked at porn for like 13 years and was getting unwanted hard ons with no effort literally the same week this happened. And I tried looking at porn later (to check if it was porn brain) and my dick remained soft until I touched it (even then it wasn’t like like it nromally is). WTF? Could I have got ED literally the one time I was on the verge of getting laid? Safe to say, I will not be looking at porn again.

  • @[email protected]English
    20•8 months ago

    As Wesker said, make it an exploration all about her and let it go wherever it goes. If you don’t get motivated for more, that is okay. Play it cool and don’t make a show of it. Take her to climax and then be whoever she needs in the moments after. If you do not take, only give, and never make it into a thing, you’ll be mysterious and interesting as a side effect. If you’re not into her, that will become clear in time.

    Also double up on an exercise routine where you do a short morning and afternoon activity that gets you sweaty at a minimum. That always helps me.

    • cinabongoOP
      5•8 months ago

      Thanks. I tried that but quickly realised I had no clue what I was doing and she seemed uncomfortable telling me. I’ll do more if I get lucky again.

        • d00phyEnglish
          3•8 months ago

          This is a seriously underrated comment!

          OP, it sounds like she maybe likes you, so be honest, but not brutally honest. It’s ok for her to know you like her and were nervous. It happens. Lay off the porn, and spend some time with her. Get to know her more. Flirt with her.

          If she already likes you, there’s no need to be mysterious or play games. Be a friend to her, make her laugh, but keep up the flirting to stay out of the friend zone (which is very much a thing).

            • d00phyEnglish
              1•8 months ago

              I know there are no studies regarding porn and sex drive, but it can desensitize you. Speaking from experience here (and I know that’s anecdotal). Not saying it breaks your equipment or anything. To quote my doctor, “at the end of the day, an erection is arousal + hydraulics, basically.”