I’ll second finding a local event and making some friends. It’s a great way to get both spotters, community and inspiration. There’s at least one community in almost every urban area, and most of them (at least here in Europe) are very friendly.

In Europe there’s a lot of overlap with the sex positivity movement, and around most of the larger venues people are also very sex worker positive, so you might even get some collabs out of it ;)

If you want tips in Europe, feel free to dm me, I should know most of the organisers, or can ask around for your area.