What’s your experience with a power exchange or D/s dynamic where the main purpose is for keeping on track of your goals?

Obviously there are a ton of different ways to have an accountability buddy, but I would like to hear about people’s experience with it as a dynamic.

I am personally somewhat interested, but my neurospicey has it so that whenever anyone tries to tell me what to do or to keep me on track I suddenly find the task absolutely loathsome. So when my partner (and Dom) and I tried to add this accountability (like them making sure I made doctor appointments, took time for writing, or other things) to our dynamic, I quickly found it too irritating. The idea of it however, still sounds interesting… but maybe just not with a romantic partner???

I would love to hear from those who are also neurospicy or are with someone who is and if they were able to find such a dynamic helpful/ enjoyable.

  • MaybeALittleBitWeird
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    22 months ago

    I don’t know that I would go so far as to say constant reassurance is necessary as a general ADHD rule. For example with myself, if I receive unnecessary reassurance I’ll interpret it as patronizing and insincere, push back, and anxiety spiral. Everyone is different though and in the usual BDSM mantra, communication is the key element.