“b-but bears are actually dangerous!” Shut the hell up.

  • @[email protected]
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    16 months ago

    It’s what it says to me and many of us. Perhaps it’s the messaging.

    What do you mean what behaviors? I don’t harass women. I barely talk to people I don’t know. But yet people are still scared of me.

    And I would 100% pick a catholic priest. What a dumb choice. And, yeah, you are accusing everyone.

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      16 months ago

      I clearly said: it’s not targeted at you specifically, but at that fact that women are disproportionately more likely to be harassed or assaulted, and when that happens, the aggressor is almost exclusively men.

      They’re not scared of you because you’re personally scary, they’re scared of you because there’s an ingrained culture of sexual harassment of women by men. So when you say “that’s a nice dress” to a woman you don’t know, she’s not thinking “aww cute”, she’s thinking “is this guy being nice, or will they threaten me if I turn them down?”

      Seriously, ask literally any woman you know if they’ve ever been sexually harassed, and the answer is almost guaranteed to be yes.

      I would 100% pick a Catholic priest

      Yes, I know that, that’s how hyperbole works. My point is that such a statement shouldn’t be interpreted as “every priest is a child molester” but as “there’s a concerningly high rate of them, and they’re probably not a good option for childcare.”

      You are accusing everyone

      When did I say “all men are <whatever you’re saying I’m accusing all men of>?” Stop making this about you, and actually try to understand why interactions with men can be terrifying for women.

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        16 months ago

        If you are not targeting all men, stop talking about men as one generalized body.

        Sorry, when you say “I’d rather encounter a bear than a man” it sure as hell sound like you are saying all men are dangerous. If that isn’t what you are saying, you are saying it poorly.