• Jojo, Lady of the West
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    36 months ago

    In their house, my sister is already using the threat of Christmas big brother against any minor hijinks that their kid gets up to.

    Oof, that seems a bit much to me. Does she tell stories about the bogeymen or Baba Yaga, too? I’d rather my child be concerned with the actual consequences for their actions rather than the imagined ones

    • @[email protected]
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      36 months ago

      There’s some research that says Santa, the Easter bunny, etc. are good for teaching kids skepticism. Plus it’s fun. I’ll often move their stuffed animals so it looks like they were doing something when the kids are asleep so they can get a little bit of magic

      But, threatening with Santa is actually bad parenting because #1 it’s a bit traumatic of a threat but #2 they’ll figure out damn fast that you’re bluffing. Never threaten a punishment you aren’t prepared to dish out (and never dish out a punishment you wouldn’t feel comfortable explaining to the kid as an adult)

      • Jojo, Lady of the West
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        16 months ago

        Yeah, it’s not the very idea of Santa I’m railing against here, it’s using him as a bogeyman to control behaviour.

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          16 months ago

          Yes, I agree, a terrible parenting strategy. Also fuck elf on the shelf, since the whole book is about how the elf is Santa’s spy and you can’t question or touch it. I’m pretty sure this is what gave her the awful idea.