Sorry if this comes off as a aggressive, but ive yet to see any of the “changes in an instant” things people say actually happen. For example, before you know it 10 years has gone by! Or yours, suddenly your belly just pops out!
When I gained 80 weight like that, it was very easy to point to the steps along the way. Its also important to realize how long it took to gain weight, as it can affect how quick you think you can lose it.
I’m almost positive its just people not paying attention. If its important to you then pay attention to it. If it was so unimportant that it seemed sudden, was it really that important to begin with?
Is it just people suddenly caring about something that they didnt for their whole lives and having to deal with all of it at once?
When you slowly boil the frog in water, does it care that it’s being boiled? Yes. Does it notice? Not initially no, it becomes apparent later on when it impacts it’s life.
I was stuck inside for almost 2 years alone, I didn’t have friends and I felt shit about myself altogether. I didn’t look in the mirror and I didn’t notice.
Until a friend sent me a photo of me at the park and I realised how bad it was and that I felt disgusting.
Did I care? Yeah, but I didn’t notice the gradual change.
I can identify the behavior and I can say the average time span, but I have no idea when it actually started or when it started to plateau.
I don’t have a scale, I don’t weigh myself, I actively avoid mirrors to stop me from hating myself even more…
I also think you’re taking the saying too literally.
Maybe I don’t want to be alive? Maybe being alive was something that was done to me? Maybe being born into the family and body I have is the trick?
Like, you sound so pedantic, bitter and quite angry about something people say to express something happening slowly without necessarily noticing how bad it is until something brings it to their attention.
Believe it or not, and this may be hard to grasp, but not everyone experiences life the way you do in your head.
I’m not saying everyone experiences things the same way. Everyone has their own perspective, and most importantly, is capable of changing it. I think the perspective displayed in the “life rushing by” memes, is negative and toxic. I think if that meme resonates with you, then it might be helpful to think about why.
If you didnt want to discuss your perspective compared to mine, I’m not sure why we are talking.
If you really wanted to know my feeling when I saw this post, since you made quite a few guesses, I felt hopeful that I could share my perspective with others and learn more about theres, using the meme as a vehicle.
But you’re not discussing it, your projecting your world views on others and making accusations and assumptions about me. Which I don’t really appreciate. You neither know me, how my mind works or what I’ve gone through. It also seems like you may or may not understand how mental health issues can affect cognition or perception.
For me it was pretty rapid after covid hit, I didn’t change what I was eating by much, but I was no longer in office walking around or I had a habit of going up and down stairs for breaks and such.
Though similarly everyone said I look more healthy now lmao
I had to argue with family members that I was in fact still at a very healthy bmi at 130 pounds. They started making comments about losing too much when I was still in the overweight category. Not sure what that’s all about.
Not to contradict your point, but I thought it was interesting you moved around more in office, where I move far more at home where I can work on chores or cook in little bursts.
Sorry if this comes off as a aggressive, but ive yet to see any of the “changes in an instant” things people say actually happen. For example, before you know it 10 years has gone by! Or yours, suddenly your belly just pops out!
When I gained 80 weight like that, it was very easy to point to the steps along the way. Its also important to realize how long it took to gain weight, as it can affect how quick you think you can lose it.
I’m almost positive its just people not paying attention. If its important to you then pay attention to it. If it was so unimportant that it seemed sudden, was it really that important to begin with?
Is it just people suddenly caring about something that they didnt for their whole lives and having to deal with all of it at once?
I don’t think it’s about caring.
When you slowly boil the frog in water, does it care that it’s being boiled? Yes. Does it notice? Not initially no, it becomes apparent later on when it impacts it’s life.
I was stuck inside for almost 2 years alone, I didn’t have friends and I felt shit about myself altogether. I didn’t look in the mirror and I didn’t notice.
Until a friend sent me a photo of me at the park and I realised how bad it was and that I felt disgusting.
Did I care? Yeah, but I didn’t notice the gradual change. I can identify the behavior and I can say the average time span, but I have no idea when it actually started or when it started to plateau.
I don’t have a scale, I don’t weigh myself, I actively avoid mirrors to stop me from hating myself even more…
I also think you’re taking the saying too literally.
Thats a bad analogy, the frog constantly wants to live, and has essentially been tricked.
In your case, you tricked yourself by not looking at yourself, despite the fact that you do in fact care how you look.
I’d say that’s more of a conscious decision to not deal with something than akin to being boiled alive.
In my opinion, ignoring something is an action, not inaction.
What does that even matter?
Maybe I don’t want to be alive? Maybe being alive was something that was done to me? Maybe being born into the family and body I have is the trick?
Like, you sound so pedantic, bitter and quite angry about something people say to express something happening slowly without necessarily noticing how bad it is until something brings it to their attention.
Believe it or not, and this may be hard to grasp, but not everyone experiences life the way you do in your head.
I’m not saying everyone experiences things the same way. Everyone has their own perspective, and most importantly, is capable of changing it. I think the perspective displayed in the “life rushing by” memes, is negative and toxic. I think if that meme resonates with you, then it might be helpful to think about why.
If you didnt want to discuss your perspective compared to mine, I’m not sure why we are talking.
If you really wanted to know my feeling when I saw this post, since you made quite a few guesses, I felt hopeful that I could share my perspective with others and learn more about theres, using the meme as a vehicle.
But you’re not discussing it, your projecting your world views on others and making accusations and assumptions about me. Which I don’t really appreciate. You neither know me, how my mind works or what I’ve gone through. It also seems like you may or may not understand how mental health issues can affect cognition or perception.
So with that, I’ll end the conversation there.
For me it was pretty rapid after covid hit, I didn’t change what I was eating by much, but I was no longer in office walking around or I had a habit of going up and down stairs for breaks and such.
Though similarly everyone said I look more healthy now lmao
Went from about 128-132 to 158-162
I had to argue with family members that I was in fact still at a very healthy bmi at 130 pounds. They started making comments about losing too much when I was still in the overweight category. Not sure what that’s all about.
Not to contradict your point, but I thought it was interesting you moved around more in office, where I move far more at home where I can work on chores or cook in little bursts.