One girl sat herself across the classroom from me (we had a U-shaped arrangement) and stared at me all year long. (She also talked to me once or twice)
One girl who was at the same bus station I was at every morning asked me to share a cab with her… for a five-minute ride.
One girl asked me what it feels like for me when I’m kissing.
The third one, even though she was the oldest, seemed insincere and was way out of my league anyway, so I didn’t get the impression that she was after me until much later when a friend clued me in. In the other two cases, I did have an idea, but I wasn’t very much into either of these girls and the second one self-sabotaged her otherwise fantastic move by also inviting two of her friends who kept making a loud mess, so I couldn’t even talk to her during the ride anyway.
And so it took a long time for me to get a real girlfriend. Too high standards, in hindsight, plus I do have no difficulties with talking to girls, but with talking with girls. Turns out the vast majority is just not interested very much in the science-y things I read and did as a tyke, teenager and beyond. Not even in Hegel.
Idk if your standards are “too high” if the result is quality over quantity. You just didn’t waste your time with people who weren’t right for you. That’s a good thing!
I say keep talking about the weird and sciencey shit because although you may not have met a lot of girls that are into that stuff yet, if you self express a lot and do the things you enjoy, you will inevitably meet somebody that likes the same things, and there are a lot of women that like it.
To be fair I don’t know how old you are. If you’re in highschool I say be patient, the whole world opens up once you’re out and socializing with people by choice and not because you’re in a class with them, if you’re older than highschool, put yourself out there and don’t try to perform as someone else just to get a date because they’ll be attracted to the performance and not you.
One girl sat herself across the classroom from me (we had a U-shaped arrangement) and stared at me all year long. (She also talked to me once or twice)
One girl who was at the same bus station I was at every morning asked me to share a cab with her… for a five-minute ride.
One girl asked me what it feels like for me when I’m kissing.
The third one, even though she was the oldest, seemed insincere and was way out of my league anyway, so I didn’t get the impression that she was after me until much later when a friend clued me in. In the other two cases, I did have an idea, but I wasn’t very much into either of these girls and the second one self-sabotaged her otherwise fantastic move by also inviting two of her friends who kept making a loud mess, so I couldn’t even talk to her during the ride anyway.
And so it took a long time for me to get a real girlfriend. Too high standards, in hindsight, plus I do have no difficulties with talking to girls, but with talking with girls. Turns out the vast majority is just not interested very much in the science-y things I read and did as a tyke, teenager and beyond. Not even in Hegel.
Idk if your standards are “too high” if the result is quality over quantity. You just didn’t waste your time with people who weren’t right for you. That’s a good thing!
I say keep talking about the weird and sciencey shit because although you may not have met a lot of girls that are into that stuff yet, if you self express a lot and do the things you enjoy, you will inevitably meet somebody that likes the same things, and there are a lot of women that like it.
To be fair I don’t know how old you are. If you’re in highschool I say be patient, the whole world opens up once you’re out and socializing with people by choice and not because you’re in a class with them, if you’re older than highschool, put yourself out there and don’t try to perform as someone else just to get a date because they’ll be attracted to the performance and not you.