My wife and I are 31, no kids yet. We moved from a major city back to our home state and are struggling to make friends here.

We keep an eye on meetup postings and Facebook events, stuff like that, no luck. We went to a local board game night and it was all elderly people. Nothing wrong with that but not exactly what we’re looking for.

Where we lived before we attended a church we liked and met people there, but churches in our area are a lot different/more political than we’re used to.

I guess eventually we’ll have kids and meet other parents, but how do we make friends now at this stage in our lives?

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    551 year ago

    Anything where you’re meeting the same people on repeat occasions. It’s pretty rare to form a friendship after only meeting people one or a couple of times. Friendships are often formed gradually. It’s easier growing up because it’s structured into so many things. You see the same people in classes, sports, clubs, etc. Friendships will form naturally in those settings. Try to find something to replicate that. It could be volunteer work, a workshop to learn something new, joining a community that shares a hobby. The key is bumping into the same people over and over

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      61 year ago

      I 100% agree that repeating an activity weekly is important.

      I always recommend bowling, because the teams are 4-5 people and it’s a weekly event with alcohol to make everything less awkward. 99.999% don’t care if you suck, and the .001% that does is a Karen.