Husband absolutely loves this stuff both in porn and real life. I like the idea of being shared, but not in charge, don’t like cuckold/belittling hotwife stuff at all, and don’t identify with that wanting to be in control. But it’s nice to feel at ease that he’s never going to be upset if I run hotter than him, that no matter what I want he won’t suddenly start feeling insecure about it. My ex was a once a week guy and thought it a personal failing on my part that I was frustrated with that, he did not find it sexy, but off-putting.