If you go somewhere alone, say, a restaurant, that’s an ostensible bad vibe, plus you’re taking up valuable real estate and time, when you could iNvItE your bUdDiEs and make it more worth the restaurant’s while, so ‘fun’-based companies have all been subliminally forcing us for 100+ years to only consume their products with people around us – think the smiling people in those Olive Garden ads.
And I’m not saying it’s not fun to do these things with people, of course it is, I’d agree that it’s even more fun. But it’s not necessarily accessible or practical for everyone all the time. We should be able to enjoy the same pleasures of the world, the same excesses of capitalism, chef-cooked lunch from the Mediterranean for $10 in iowa at 10am, roller coasters, beach resorts, etc, without feeling shitty and weird for not having someone by our side. Same thing with the pressure to start a family as well. Sure, it’s a natural impulse, but it’s been hijacked by the ever-growing greed of capital.
It’s so insidious it’s insane. Marketing is scumwork for scumlords. They create empty spaces of desire we’re magnetized to fill. I’m sure there’s a way to think yourself out of this, but it’s hard and I have no idea where to start on that mountain and I think meditation is sort of bullshit (especially if you have autism [hi]).
I tried to buy season tickets for myself for our local baseball team and the guy was like ‘you can invite a friend if you want as well!’ and like yeah no shit, maybe I want to go alone and relax? Can I simply have that freedom without being nudged to constantly perform my own emotional labor to give them more revenue? Please? God?
You feeling shitty or weird doing stuff alone is a you problem. Literally nobody else cares or is even thinking about you at all. Everyone in the restaurant is there to do their own thing, eat food, meet friends or family, or work. Nobody is thinking “look at that weird person sitting alone” because they just don’t even notice.
Mentioning that you can bring a friend with you after buying season tickets is letting you know of a good benefit you might not have known. It wasn’t a secret attack on you or someone doing things by themselves.
Relax. There is no “introvert” persecution. Go do your thing, literally nobody cares you are doing them by yourself.
Yeah it’s always weird to read this kind of comment. I spent a lot of my twenties travelling for work on my own, going to restaurants or the movies or wherever on my own, I never felt that pressure op talks about. Maybe it’s a geographic thing?
It almost seems a bit egotistical to imagine that anyone is even considering strangers and what they do in public.
Eh, when you grow up around an overly judgmental adult it’s easy to think all adults are like that.
I share that thought