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    That’s limerence.

    A more stable relationship is when feelings crystalize, but until then, there’s limerence. Two-way limerent relationships are as unstable as a bottle of undiluted nitroglycerin. In any case, limerent relationships are quite common, and are the stuff of music, art, and poetry.

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        There was a young man that said “damn”

        For it certainly seems that I am

        A creature that moves in determinate grooves

        I’m not even a bus, I’m a tram

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        65 months ago

        I want you to finish it. No one ever finishes it. I don’t even know the rest of the limerick because no one ever finishes it!

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          There are a metric fuckton of limericks that start with that phrase. A common one is:

          There was a young man from Nantucket
          Whose dick was so long he could suck it.
              He said with a grin
              As he wiped off his chin,
          "If my ear was a cunt I would fuck it." 
          
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          As an actual man from Nantucket (though not that one) lemme fill you in:

           

          There once was a man from Nantucket,

          Whose dick was so long he could suck it.

          He said with a grin,

          As he wiped off his chin,

          “If my ear was a cunt I would fuck it.”

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          I know a different version from the other two:

          There once was a man from Nantucket

          Who put all his shit in a bucket

          And one day he tripped

          And the bucket, it flipped

          And he said “ah well fuck it”

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      145 months ago

      God lemmy is worse than reddit with people being negative about others happiness. If you are so unhappy you need to spoil other peoples happiness you need to get help.

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        135 months ago

        I agreed with you up to the point where it appeared as if you felt that logophiles are miserable and spread misery. That being said, I appreciate your perspective and I’m sorry sharing what brings me joy has the opposite effect on you.

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      This read just like the stuff that a girl with BPD would write about me haha.

      How y’all think that went for me?

      Oh and I’ve never heard that word. Thank you.

      Edit: You’ve sent me down a rabbit hole.

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      A central feature of limerence for Tennov was the fact that her participants really saw the object of their affection’s personal flaws, but simply overlooked them or found them attractive.[32][28] Tennov calls this “crystallization”, after a description by Stendhal in his 1821 treatise On Love. This “crystallized” version of a love object, with accentuated features, is what Tennov calls a “limerent object”, or “LO”.[33]

      For Tennov, sexual desire is an essential aspect of limerence[34] but the desire for emotional commitment is greater.[35] The sexual desires of Tennov’s interviewees were overshadowed by their desire for their beloved to contact them, invite them out and reciprocate their passion.[30]

      Limerence can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often derided and dismissed as undesirable, some kind of pathology, ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.[36]

      The wiki page you linked is saying kind of the opposite about crystalization then what you are saying.