Comments like these just make me believe my decision never to marry was a good one. I understand love is about compromise, but sacrificing freedom is not worth it, I don’t think. You are who you are. Why would someone marry and then try to change their partner. Marry who you want not what you want them to be. Kind of backwards.
Imo anyone who doesn’t feel free in a marriage is doing it wrong. Compromise is for things like getting orange juice with some pulp because one likes lots and the other likes none, not compromising who you fundamentally are as a person.
Don’t marry someone who doesn’t appreciate the quirks that make you you.
You got it wrong. The spouse did mrry who they wanted, it’s just not who OP is. The lesson should be “be yourself” not “Don’t get married because then you can’t be yourself”.
SO broke up with me in 5 days in cause I was too heavy handed emotional. I went Full Gomez.
Well yeah, going full Gomez within 5 days is too much for anyone. You probably would have been fine had you slowly ramped up so it felt natural vs some kind of love bombing.
Comments like these just make me believe my decision never to marry was a good one. I understand love is about compromise, but sacrificing freedom is not worth it, I don’t think. You are who you are. Why would someone marry and then try to change their partner. Marry who you want not what you want them to be. Kind of backwards.
Imo anyone who doesn’t feel free in a marriage is doing it wrong. Compromise is for things like getting orange juice with some pulp because one likes lots and the other likes none, not compromising who you fundamentally are as a person.
Don’t marry someone who doesn’t appreciate the quirks that make you you.
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You got it wrong. The spouse did mrry who they wanted, it’s just not who OP is. The lesson should be “be yourself” not “Don’t get married because then you can’t be yourself”.
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Well yeah, going full Gomez within 5 days is too much for anyone. You probably would have been fine had you slowly ramped up so it felt natural vs some kind of love bombing.
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