I had this conversation with my girlfriend earlier cause like - okay let me explain. She was doing this whole thing talking about the difference between fetisizing people and having a kink. And talking about how she learned it in school, saying fetishes are exclusively towards objects. And I was like, that’s bullshit because people get fetishized all the damn time. And she said well that’s the classic definition. And I said, yeah well fags are a bundle of sticks and a dyke is a thing on the side of the road. And I said I know this sounds super woo-woo but science has to be definitive in nature in order to be expressed. Otherwise you’re just speculating. And that there are things that I believe that we intrinsically know as human beings that even if the science hasn’t caught up yet is still true. And if what’s in the DSM-5 says something (which I just looked into and it’s not explicitly objects - so she might have some misinformation there) that I don’t explicitly believe in it’ll take some heavy evidence to lead me in a different way.

But I will say that I am open to suggestion, but I also trust in my gut. Especially on personal matters. Because people can be cruel, and if they figure out you’re “different” than them some will mess with you. This was some real brain-soup so apologies if it was all wobbly. I am gunna go take my buns outside and chill. Hahaha!