Start by learning, “retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you. It has nothing to do with their actual feelings.”
It’s good practice for “women often have to act nice to men they don’t like, because they’re afraid of being harmed by them before they can get to safety.”
Honestly her liking him or just pretending is irrelevant. Start by learning “offering to rub someone’s feet (or any other somewhat intimate touching) is NOT a good way to flirt, even if they do like you!”
Still, if instead of talking to her multiple timers during her shift and creeping her out with the footrub offer, he could have just asked her for a coffee after work, which she could politely decline. After that, he could leave her alone, and still occasionally shop at the same Walmart.
retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you
As an European, if a retail employee ever acts friendly or even smiles at me I’m not setting foot in that retail chain ever again.
I don’t want creepy freaks bothering me while I’m trying to shop, I just want to shop and be left alone unless I ask for something (which would also be a red flag, the products should be sufficiently well organised and labelled that asking will never be necessary).
Haha, I worked in a high-end gift shop and spent my day reading labels for ladies too vain to wear reading glasses.
I’d help them pick out the gift they needed, often for their mother in law which I think is unfair, it’s HIS mom. Then while we wrapped the gift, they’d get several other items for their own home.
We weren’t on commission so it was never a “hard sell,” and I was always sensitive to people who prefer to shop alone because I do too. But some customers want attention or at least human interaction.
And sometimes I would take a mom’s little kids around the store, showing them the things it was okay to touch and steering them away from the fragile porcelain, so their mom could relax enough to think about what she needed to get. Fortunately we had a section of “grandma gifts for children” so I could always take them there if she was comfortable having them out of her sight.
And then a few times a year we’d get a man, who was shopping for his wife or his own mother! We’d always help them out because they’d be lost, and often it was less about finding the things, and more about asking about her, so we could help them figure out what she might enjoy and appreciate.
Start by learning, “retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you. It has nothing to do with their actual feelings.”
It’s good practice for “women often have to act nice to men they don’t like, because they’re afraid of being harmed by them before they can get to safety.”
Honestly her liking him or just pretending is irrelevant. Start by learning “offering to rub someone’s feet (or any other somewhat intimate touching) is NOT a good way to flirt, even if they do like you!”
Well he learned that this time lol
Though I gotta say banning him from the store seems excessive
We only have one side of this story, and the source is an anonymous 4chan user, you wanna bet there are some details missing?
Probably a majority of the details.
Yes, that too!
Still, if instead of talking to her multiple timers during her shift and creeping her out with the footrub offer, he could have just asked her for a coffee after work, which she could politely decline. After that, he could leave her alone, and still occasionally shop at the same Walmart.
Yes, seeing if she’s okay with meeting outside the retail context is the test. If not, go no further.
As an European, if a retail employee ever acts friendly or even smiles at me I’m not setting foot in that retail chain ever again.
I don’t want creepy freaks bothering me while I’m trying to shop, I just want to shop and be left alone unless I ask for something (which would also be a red flag, the products should be sufficiently well organised and labelled that asking will never be necessary).
I understand not wanting them to bother you, but even if they smile?
If I wanted to be creeped out I’d go to a haunted house or something like that, not to a store.
Haha, I worked in a high-end gift shop and spent my day reading labels for ladies too vain to wear reading glasses.
I’d help them pick out the gift they needed, often for their mother in law which I think is unfair, it’s HIS mom. Then while we wrapped the gift, they’d get several other items for their own home.
We weren’t on commission so it was never a “hard sell,” and I was always sensitive to people who prefer to shop alone because I do too. But some customers want attention or at least human interaction.
And sometimes I would take a mom’s little kids around the store, showing them the things it was okay to touch and steering them away from the fragile porcelain, so their mom could relax enough to think about what she needed to get. Fortunately we had a section of “grandma gifts for children” so I could always take them there if she was comfortable having them out of her sight.
And then a few times a year we’d get a man, who was shopping for his wife or his own mother! We’d always help them out because they’d be lost, and often it was less about finding the things, and more about asking about her, so we could help them figure out what she might enjoy and appreciate.
are you scandinavian because I feel like that’s what one side of my family is like, the swedish/dutch side
As stated, you gotta start somewhere. Nobody is born knowing what to do or how to keep mouse from pissing themselves.