It sounds way less offensive to those who decry the original terminology’s problematic roots but still keeps its meaning intact.

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    while in some ways I can see your point, I would just have a hard time saying this in a work meeting here in the deep south with black colleagues present

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        Isn’t the inverse - “I asked x number of black people and they were OK with it” or even “I assume y% number of black people are ok with it” subject to the same criticism?

        I am white so we’re probably getting to the edge of propriety in this conversation.

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            Or isn’t the other half of that …… if you have a toxic personality and wish to change that, there may be no single fix but to pay more attention to many small habits contributing to that toxicity.

            This whole conversation reminds me of the similar one many years ago, about crude jokes and pictures/calendars in the workplace. The dominant population said exactly the same things. However now we’re all more professional and work is much less toxic, not just for women, minorities, people with different preferences, but also less toxic for us white male heteros as well. We all won that one

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        Bro I fucking said “whitelist” in a meeting and got so many glares, fuck all of these fucking uneducated pieces of shit that can only punch down because they know nothing except “DATS RACIST”

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          Fucking thermodynamics is racist guys

          Black absorbs, white reflects

          Blackhole, sun

          fuck these people

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          For most people it’s a lot more simple and subconscious than that. White=positive, black=negative. Most people do not consciously apply this to race, but they don’t have to for the subconscious association to take root.

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          If I had to guess, it’s just the general “white=good black=bad” which itself is likely related to day/night.

          But it’s easy to imagine a bouncer at a club with a list of whites allowed in and blacks that aren’t. I don’t think that’s the etymology, but it’s also important to remember that language is alive and words can take on unintended meaning.

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              I didn’t mean that it originated with bouncers, I meant I imagined it coming to be associated with race in such a way 😅

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                  Idk if that’s for white folks like me (and you?) to decide, and there is no harm on erring on the side of caution.

                  It’s like the deal with micro-aggressions. Alone they’re not much, but a constant buildup of these little things can leave someone feeling raw and very sensitive to it.

                  I don’t think the etymology started with race, I think it started with day/night. But I’m not an expert on etymology, and while I’m very curious, it probably doesn’t really matter here.