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  • @[email protected]
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    183 months ago

    I’m not by my partner. Never have been, that’s why I love her, she’s always been kind.

    But she also carries some distrust and resentment towards mean-justifiably given trauma-that is sometimes directed at me, inadvertently I think. Which sucks and doesn’t make me feel great, but it also makes sense from her perspective and she’s not got an issue with me

    • @[email protected]
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      33 months ago

      Sounds like she needs kindness. I have someone in my life like that. They’re working on it but it’s a long hard road.

      • @[email protected]
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        43 months ago

        She does, as does everyone. So it’s walking a balance of respecting her and her trauma and being supportive, while also standing up for myself when needed