All of my IRL friendships are based around activities - we play games together, we volunteer together, etc. When someone moves away and we try to keep the friendship going, it always just sputters out after a few weeks or months. It just seems to devolve into small-talk / catch-ups that neither of us are really interested in (I don’t mind small-talk too much, but it can’t be 100% of any meaningful relationship).

So: What is the point of a long-distance friendship for two people who have no plans to live locally again? What am I missing?

EDIT: I have close conversations in person that are deep and meaningful, just very rarely over text. Maybe I ought to phone or video call once in a while…

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    172 months ago

    My bestie is on the other coast.

    Most of our conversations are us talking about life, what we think about things, venting about work and our loved ones and being as ridiculous and unfocused as we always are.

    She was also the Best Woman in my wedding.

    I feel like it’s a matter of finding friends you have friend chemistry with rather than people you kinda get along with while doing a singular thing