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    317 days ago

    I’m English and in England. I’m having a bit of trouble with “u get left on read…” Can someone help me out please?

    • @[email protected]
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      1617 days ago

      left on “read” (past participle) = the guy doesn’t reply.

      It relates to the messaging apps showing “read” when someone has read the message, but not yet replied.

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      317 days ago

      I’m an American, and I had to ask my wife what that was the first time I saw it. And then I needed an explanation on why that was a problem, because I had thought the point of text messages was that you could read it and get back at your convenience, as opposed to a phone call you have to respond to in the moment.

      Apparently I’m old.

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        617 days ago

        One advantage of SMS over other messengers. As far as I’m concerned whether I’ve read a message or not is nobody’s fucking business but my own.

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          317 days ago

          Exactly, which is why I refuse to enable read receipts or use services where it can’t be disabled.

          I’ll get notifications and read them without actually opening them, and I’ll also open messages without actually reading them. I don’t want people to make assumptions based on the read status, so I refuse to engage with that feature.

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        717 days ago

        Are you OK? I like learning about ways people speak. If I wasn’t interested I wouldn’t have asked.

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          117 days ago

          Or more specifically, use of specific apps. I don’t use apps w/ read receipts on purpose (and I disable it in apps that have it), so the etiquette around that is entirely irrelevant to me, regardless of age.