Oh, absolutely a demand.

The problem is that it’s a very complicated thing, and that means you can’t just gonna someone willing, they have to have the experience and skill as well, or it’s going to end up bad.

It really isn’t something most doms are into as their own kink. Picking up the “tricks if the trade” means having to spend your own time learning something instead of having fun for your own ends, if it isn’t also your kink. That’s as rare as finding a dom that has the kink tbh.

Back when I participated in the local scene, the feminization side of things was fairly rare, and not part of what most bdsm groups did when they met.

That being said, it can be fun to take part in, even if it isn’t your kink. I have done scenes with sissies before, and while it isn’t something I would want to do regularly, particularly if it involves sexual intercourse (be it oral or anal), even that is fine for the occasional bit of experimentation to get out of the comfort zone.

That’s where most doms I’ve known stand on it. It’s not their main focus because it really is a focus for a sissy. If you aren’t doing that part of dominance, they tend to not be fulfilled by a session. It’s kind of like pony play in that regard, you have to specialize in it to really get anything out of it long term.

But be patient. Be willing to communicate well with any potential dom so that there’s no crossed wires. Doms that aren’t used to the feminization genre of play can make mistakes that are easy to avoid if they’re talked out in detail ahead of time. The few times I did it, I was lucky enough that the sissies I was playing with were very experienced and let me know what they needed rather than expecting me to magically know the ins and outs of it all. I know that breaks some of the immersion, but until you find a long term partner, that’s the only way to go.

It comes down to the demand being much higher than the supply.