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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/SterlingDex on 2023-08-18 15:24:53+00:00.

So for a quick bit of info, I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We life a bit far from each other and can’t meet often because neither of us have a car. He got a job so he could get one but he still hasn’t done it saying he hasn’t found anyone selling a car that he can afford.

But the thing is for the past year he has put a lot of money on these anime figures he really likes. One of them was this Unohana figure from bleach, the big one that light up. He spent nearly $1000 on it due to the extra shipping cost and how hard it is to find. Another one he recently pre ordered was over $200. And that’s without counting his gacha addiction, Brave Frontier ruined him when it was out, honkai has done the same and he’s spent over $300 more on it. I love collecting figures and gacha too but I don’t spend more than like $5 dollars on those games if anything at all and the most expensive figure I have was $130 at most. So it’s concerning because at this point if this continues I don’t know if we can stay together. He won’t be financially stable and relying on me for it in the future if we move in together somehow when I still don’t have a job is not going to end well. He hasn’t gone beyond jokingly asking me to get him a $400+ figure to which I just plainly state I’m poor but if he does then we really won’t be able to stay together in the long run.

He said he would get a car to make the distance work, I was still in uni at the time and I thought “that’s a great idea. Then you can drive over when I’m free and we can spend time together.” But instead I think he forgot about that in favor of getting his pretty characters.

I love him and will bring it up to him to work this out but I wanted to see if there was any second opinions about this. I don’t think he’s seen an issue but I’m worried. I come from a family who struggled a lot with money in the past, so seeing it be spent so freely on non essentials actually makes me anxious. Like that money could’ve been saved up for an emergency or to save up for his own place.

TL;DR: My boyfriend is obsessed with buying expensive things that aren’t necessary and I’m concerned we won’t be able to stay together if it continues.