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The original was posted on /r/relationships by /u/StringOfHearts86 on 2023-08-18 20:11:08+00:00.

I’ve (F35) been dating my boyfriend (M38) for about a year now. He was going on a stag holiday with friends so I said I’d give him a lift to the airport at 3am in the morning. It was the last week before he was going away and I was going away on a separate holiday so we weren’t going to see each other for 6 weeks. He also works away for work so we don’t get a lot of time together. Anyway I asked him if he wanted me to come over one last night or did he want to try and get some sleep before his flight. He said he wouldn’t mind getting some sleep. I was a bit gutted that I wouldn’t get that time with him but understood.

So I pick him up at 3am he shows up drunk. He said he doesn’t want to lie to me he’s been out drinking with his friend instead of sleeping. Apparently his friend called him up and asked him.

I feel really hurt. I’ve had issues with his lack of effort and making time for me when he’s home in the past and I’ve actually ended things over it. He’s been really making an effort since getting back together but then this happened and now I feel like he’s back to his old ways.

Should I confront him about it and what do I say? It’s been a month and ive not brought it up. Should I just accept that’s how he is or move on. Really interested to know what other people think of this and what I should do about it. Thanks.

TDLR: Boyfriend chose spending his last night with his friend instead of me. How should I handle this?