Forgive me for the title and the post if it doesn’t follow established rules and terms, I’m still new to all this.
After the new year I’ve started frequenting AMPs. And I have had a good experience getting the typical L1 HJ experience. But I’m interested in more intimate services. Not FS, that doesn’t interest me much but more what I would call L2+. DFK, PM that isn’t rushed and rough, TUMA/DATO, and BBBJ.
I’ve managed to get FIMA easily enough but they are rushed and rough which hasn’t done anything for me. I want something slower and more methodical. Same with BJs. The one I’ve gotten has been a CBJ with plastic wrap and had so much teeth that it was not worth it.
I’m looking for something better. A slower and better FIMA or PM, and even what I consider the Holy Grail, a nice slow PM and DATO. Combined with either a BBBJ or a CBJ that isn’t just plastic wrap.
How have other mongers managed to get this? During the flip and deed I have become more direct in what I want but I still haven’t gotten exactly what I want. Does anyone have any tips? I am thinking about maybe going 90 min versus an HR and bringing my own flavored wrap, but does that plus more explicit instruction make sense or should I do something else? Is there anything that I should do with the wrap before hand? I’m in a medium sized city so these additional services aren’t advertised openly if that helps.
Not all spas are more then an HJ, you’d need to find the spas that offer more, only doing HJs leave alot of these places under the radar, because no one really cares about handjobs.
Yeah, I get that. I wasn’t as clear as I wanted to be. Let’s say that I did go to a place that did offer more than just HJs. How do I go about asking for something that isn’t the norm in the realm of L2 services?
Like I said, I have gotten a CBJ and know a place that does offer it. But my experience wasn’t that great the one time I did get it. Plastic wrap, too much teeth and no hint of putting the mouth anywhere else that I would want.
Definitely asking for it is the safer and more direct way of getting what I want, but there is also a fine line of not saying anything too directly to keep up the fiction. I’m sure most people at an AMP have never directly been verbally offered an HJ nor have they directly asked for one. It is all body language, euphemisms and understood actions between both the business and the provider. Is there something similar for this level of service that I could use?
UI More scouting / trial and error would be needed.
A lot of places are HJ-only. BJ may be the max. So whether it is available depends on the store. But of course you will need to express to them.
Oh yeah I definitely get that. I wasn’t clear. I wasn’t asking how to convince some place that is HJ only to do more.
My question is for a place that for example does offer CBJ, what things should I know and do to try to get what I want? Like for example, the one time I’ve gotten a CBJ, it just wasn’t good. Plastic wrap, too much teeth, not deep enough and no other action for anything outside of the shaft covered by that plastic.
For HJ for example, if you want a PM there are things you can do before hand like body grooming, body language during like raising up during brushing and putting your legs up and simple verbal queues like “lower” that can get you what you want. Are there things similar to that you can do before and during a CBJ or a BBBJ to get a better BJ, PM and even something like a TUMA?
asking them to do more than they are willing to? I am not sure if it is a good idea.
I wasn’t clear, definitely not trying to get them to do more than what they want. It was more about how to relay what I want considering that it isn’t the usual rub and tug. If they don’t offer that, it’s all good. But I would like to know the best way to relay what I want.
Maybe build to that over time? A lot of them won’t do what you are asking, they just keep it simple and try to stay out of trouble, so it’s probably going to be hard to find. But just ask or use gestures and say first soft/slow or can you do x… can use a phone to translate. If you find someone in an apartment you can talk about whatever you want. Otherwise it sounds like your providers are too mechanical and you are looking for better quality. For that I’d use reviews
Thanks, those are good suggestions and what I will try.
Have you had good experiences using a phone for translation? I usually don’t bring my phone in and the one time I needed to use a phone for translation it was before the actual massage. Have you ever asked for the phone while on the table to better translate what you want? Did it work well?
Yes but usually before or after