• @[email protected]
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    157 months ago

    I have been dealing with possibly having cancer for the last 4 months. After my 3rd biopsy they’re saying it isn’t. They’re still not sure what it is. But I feel so guilty for bringing my friends down with me only to tell them that it’s not life threatening like we thought.

    • GladiusB
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      107 months ago

      I don’t think that is something to feel bad about. The evidence led you where you thought it went and it led somewhere even better. Diagnosis isn’t a perfect line from a to b to c all the time. I’m sure your family and friends understand that.

    • @[email protected]
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      27 months ago

      I’m surr your friends are just happy for you. Hell, I am happy for you. Go grab your friends and celebrate it’s not as lige threatening as you thought

  • BigFig
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    127 months ago

    Absolutely. I often feel “guilty” in a way of being depressed because I think to myself that I have no or not enough reasons to to be depressed. I know logically that’s not how depression works, but it still can put me in moods that I have to work to get out of

  • Curious Canid
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    97 months ago

    One of the worst things about depression is all the sneaky ways in which it reinforces itself. You can’t function at full capacity, which is a direct problem, but also makes you feel lazy. You sometimes don’t have the energy to deal with people, which isolates you and makes you feel like you’re offending them. You just plain feel awful and feel guilty about inflicting it on the people around you. It seems like everything hits you twice.

    Therapy can help with both aspects, but I think it is particularly useful in helping you recognize and deal with the secondary parts of the problem.

  • @xePBMg9
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    87 months ago

    Yes, when I feel bad, I inadvertently pull the mood of my loved ones down with me. That is not desired. It makes me feel worse. Not much I can do about it, other than hide my feelings, which would make me feel bad. The is probably a pretty common experience.

  • Eyedust
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    77 months ago

    You mean like feeling bad about stupid things you’ve done (that most likely weren’t that stupid or embarrassing) and then feeling bad because you always feel bad about those things when normal people probably don’t? Yuh.

  • @[email protected]
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    67 months ago

    Do you mean in the sense of say missing a concert because you got sick? Or is it something more contorted like feeling sympathy for someone and then regretting it?

  • @[email protected]
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    67 months ago

    Yes, but usually it only happens because something that shouldn’t have caused a negative reaction, does.

  • RiverGhost
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    57 months ago

    All the time. My life has been pretty good when it comes to external circumstances, but I have a severe lifelong mood disorder.

    So I’m constantly feeling bad and there’s never any ‘reason’.

  • @[email protected]
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    47 months ago

    At times, yeah.

    It always happens when I confront things that I need to do, that I need to absolutely do if it means gaining some sort of progress or order in my life.

    Like removing a friend, maybe deleting a bunch of games I never were interested in playing in the first place but bought them anyways under the false guise of “just incase”.

    Anytime I finally do one of those things, I feel bad and I hate myself for feeling bad for doing what’s overdue to have been done.

  • guyrocket
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    47 months ago

    Bad on top of bad is a double negative.

    THEREFORE it means you feel good.

    It’s called logic, bitches.