Oh. My. God. Can fucking apps learn that when I say “block” and “less like this” I fucking mean it? Don’t show me fucking anything about baseball, soccer, tennis, basketball, and especially not American football. I AM NOT YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE.

Also, I have to block a large fraction of my social feeds at certain times of the year because all they talk about are sports.

I’ll never understand letting the outcome of a game make or break my mood in the following days.

I spent >10 years of my youth playing a sport competitively. I don’t think I ever watched a professional game to completion. Unlike pretty much all my teammates, I just could not have cared less.

Play the sport myself? Fun, sure! Watch someone else play? Uh, why?

I think it’s great that people enjoy watching sports. I dunno why but it just bored the hell out of me.

I don’t mind playing sports even if I suck at them, but watching them? Uggghhh.

I too do not understand social media. The best I get is it’s about people shouting into a void and hoping someone else heard you to interact with it, by repeating it, liking it, or shouting back at you.

Hashtags are the only way to organize these posts and you need to add them or no one else will hear your shouts into the void.

Interestingly, I think people like you and me use Lemmy because one of the same underlying reasons as social media people:

Either:

1. Endless amounts of stuff that speaks to your interest. (With us it’s stuff like technology. On Social media, people are “interested” in what others are up to.

2. Getting likes/dislikes. Even though likes aren’t important on Lemmy, I notice in my usage that I do subconsciously get the same dopamine hits jf a post gets liked a lot, just like Social Media does. It’s less aggressive on Lemmy because you don’t get alerts for it, but it does factor in on engagement.

3. Engaging in conversations/discussions with other people.

4. Sharing things you find interesting yourself

The content might be different, but the underlying principles are really close. Social Media is actually really close to how forums work at it’s core.

But I know this is an unpopular opinion. And no, I wouldn’t call Lemmy Social Media per se. But the line is more blurry than I’d like to admit if I look at my time spent with Lemmy.

Like the saying goes:

Everything I know about the Kardashians I learned against my will.

Hopefully Green Bell G-1008 nail clippers. They’re significantly better than any clippers I’ve used before. They’d make the mowing process much better.

Add getting married to that for me. I enjoy not being legally bound to another human

Ugh, yep, I’m far from alone in saying I’d really rather not have any

Whenever I hear the word ‘economy’ I replace it with ‘rich people’s yacht money.’ I feel that clarifies a lot of my opinions on the matter.

That’s quite frankly how it’s designed. Capitalism favors no one but those that have built it and continue building on it.

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Sounds like you need to find a less popular beach

Actually swimming in the ocean is a pretty unique experience, but it does kind of require you to be a strong swimmer.

Are you Bill Hicks?

Me too. And I live in NZ where there’s bloody beaches everywhere. Can’t move for beaches

I think constantly bringing it up to people all the time is more of a disservice.

The trans community is tiny, I’m an almost 50 year old trans woman transitioned over 20 years ago. The reason we have the rights we do is because it’s “brought up all the time”. When I transitioned, it was rarely brought up, this was because most people were scared of the social and economic consequences of doing so. This is all changing because we talk about it rather than be quiet and let people keep us down. I’d imagine even you might have more negative views of trans people if the only exposure you had was from talk shows promoting us as freaks, this is how it was before.

Other than that, your attitude is fine, not everyone needs to be interested.

I think the silent majority feels like this.

“Eh, not my cup of tea, but you do you”

AI for me as well. I’ve played with it a little and it’s kinda fun. Every company is pushing AI now including in areas where it doesn’t make any sense or is many years away from being useful. I’m also seeing a lot of developers being assigned to use AI without any directions on what to use it for.

I’m far enough along in my career I don’t need to worry about being replaced by AI. If it’s ever good enough to take my job I’ll be happily retired writing software for fun and living my life without AI. I just don’t have any interest.

The French word for “entertainment” is “divertissement” and you don’t need to know French to get what it is: a diversion from things that matter.

Same, I never saw a MCU movies for instance

I realized far too late that most mainstream media is about maximizing views and not telling those stories that worth telling as you said. They start with an interesting idea for a story and if it gets popular it just drags on to get the most amount of eyeballs for as long as possible only for it to end long after it should have with an unsatisfying ending.

And don’t get me started on injecting soap opera esque character drama just to keep the lowest common denominator inerested (looking at you For All Mankind)

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Of course, but the people who are constantly talking about “Stocks” and “The Market” are usually constantly trading, wheeling, dealing, doing all sorts of shit and then trying to brag about how smart they are cause they’re “hustling” while… barely keeping up with or not keeping up at all with those broad index funds you already mentioned.

I pump Large Growth and call it a day.

Yep, S&P 500 or Russel 2000 is all you really need.

Saving accounts are just a great resource for banks. Their returns are always less than inflation so you’re basically always losing money with them.

I’ve had stocks in a couple forms over my lifetime and after a while, both times I have pulled all my money out.

The first time was shortly after the 2008 crash. All those reassuring words my investing manager person told me were simply sweet nothings. I decided that taking the hit of losing half my money was a life lesson and used the remaining half to go travel and live a life for myself. That investing manager later went on to have a covid party out of defiance for masking requirements, caught covid and died. Felt good knowing my stranger-danger alarms were working even if I didn’t understand my decisions fully at the time.

The second time I simply put my money into a low risk, government stock option for a few years. After watching global leaders fumble the handling of a global pandemic, I lost faith my own government to have my best interest in mind. I pulled my money out again.

I personally feel super uncomfortable allowing other people to make money off my money that I am risking. Even if it is low risk. It make me feel exploited.

Ultimately, I decided I don’t need my money to work for me because I don’t even want to work. I hate the concept of money. To me, money just disconnects us from community and nature.

If you are curious to how I live, it’s with very little. I spent a number of years of my life living out of a 34 liter sized backpack. Living minimally while making sure what I owned had meaning, purpose or intention transfered over to when I finally started settling into a certain location.

Seems like you’re describing renting in an apartment complex or similar. Not exactly an apples to apples comparison to owning a single family home.

Not that you’ve raised bad points. Renting does have the benefits you’ve described, though lawn care in my experience is hit and miss. The issue is getting these benefits must cost something. So long as having them doesn’t mean the rent is double the mortgage, then it’s worthwhile.

Otherwise, renting is just another more expensive option for all the people that can’t afford the upfront cost of getting into the housing market.

Which country? In France and Germany tenants are expected to do all of that by themselves. On top of financing their landlord’s cocaine, of course.

Edit: actually in Germany it’s often the opposite, landlords will tell you about how difficult it is to own a place while sucking your blood off. Shitty country

One would love renting because they’ve managed to find the sweet spot that is an area where things are relatively quiet and peaceful. Management actually cares. Tenants keep to themselves. Things are relatively retained in condition.

But if you’re living in a complex opposite of that, yeah you’ll hate everything about renting. Tenants who make you wonder how they scrounge enough money to pay monthly rents with how they behave. Management who you wonder how they keep their jobs with how they handle things and allow said problematic tenants to come rent from them. You’ll be getting e-mails of management telling you “oh, package room has to be monitored now because package theft is now a problem” or “we’ll be closing the pool down for the rest of the season because children and tenants can’t behave”

And just a bunch of other issues.

I shovel the driveway when it snows, takes 20 minutes and is good exercise. I don’t pay a repair guy to fix stuff, I do it myself. I mow the lawn once a week and it’s a nice chance to get outside for half an hour. I don’t maintain a swimming pool since I don’t have one. If I have problems with my neighbors I make them brownies and talk to them. And all the money I pay into my mortgage is going into an asset, not some other fuckstick’s pockets.

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Not to mention horribly flat eq. No dynamic integrity whatsoever.

I’m glad we live in an era now where people finally realized that they can just not have children and for it to become more optional.

Having a kid and a family is not what it always take to have a fulfilling and happy life. For people to think that’s all it takes, would be devaluing all of their gains and the people that have helped them along the way aka friends.

The fact that “family values” are politicized and cast as the best, most important way to live is honestly fucked up when you think about it.

Why did we decide being het and having kids makes you a fucking hero?