I believe a fetish is almost a clinical definition where a person cannot orgasm at all unless the fetish is present.

Of course, casual usage would be different. People without a clinical fetish would say they have a fetish, when it’s really just a sexual interest or a huge turn-on.

The clinical condition would be a lot harder to get rid of than a turn-on.

Kink tastes can change. You can’t really force it, and sometimes they come and go. It’s awkward but it ex part of life. Especially with things that are mostly hot for novelty’s sake.

Yes? Tastes change. My wife and I were into BDSM but as we got older, we became more boring.

On the more scientific side, there was a report about a person who suffered a brain injury and their tastes change, unfortunately towards pedophilia

I think most people’s sexuality does evolve over time, and kinky or open-minded people might go through phases of really being into something.

But a fetish, like something that develops early and the person needs it? I’m not sure. That seems like asking if I could stop needing to be heterosexual, more than asking if I could give up wanting to be dominated.

I’m no deeply educated kink guru, but the concept of fetishes always seemed a bit broad and fuzzy to me. Maybe some people really truly cannot experience sexual pleasure without engaging in their fetish, but for others it’s more of a very strong preference, or even just a space they’re excited about exploring.

Sexuality is fluid and highly contextual. For me, there are elements of my sexuality that have shifted over the years but I still like novelty (“spicing things up” as they say) and (probably due to my religious upbringing) a certain thrill when it feels like one is doing something a little “wrong” or transgressive. Those don’t really lend themselves to set patterns or “fetishes” because if you do anything enough it can feel normal and routine.

For somebody with a lot of enduring shame actually that might even “anchor” a fetish maybe, the ones who like things so transgressive that they will never be normalized in our society. Sex is weird.

I think it’s possible to lose sexual interest in some things, our sexual tastes can change over time or with intentional work. Some things may be more deeply ingrained and are probably impossible to change, but other things I think can be changed from exposure (or lack of exposure) to different stimuli.

I used to have a thing for teenage girls when I was 15. Now I’m 40yo and I have a thing for 40yo women. Go figure.

Lol ask the dude who begged his girl to shit on him, and had a full on existential crisis between when it crowned and when it hit em.