Dating is all about going places you don’t like to meet people so also don’t want to be there, which makes literally any other option more appealing.

My SO and I met at a dance. I didn’t want to be there, and my SO thought it was tacky, so we had something immediately in common when I walked over to talk.

It’s a weird, unspoken cultural thing. If I go somewhere to have fun, I’m not interested in meeting new people, I’m interested in the activity.